Do you want to get ready for 2020? Grab your journal and a blanket, light a candle and make yourself a warm cup of tea and get ready to do some reflections for the past year, and visualise your 2020 🙌✨
2020 is approaching soon, and I can feel it’s going to be a BIG year! Last year I began the year with reflecting on the past year, sat goals for the upcoming year and sat some minor goals for each quarter in the year to help me reach my goals.
I’ve reached almost ALL of my goals I sat for myself for 2019. So I’m going to do the exact same thing this year! This year I’ve started doing accountability coaching together with my dad, where we set goals in different areas of our lives and create small tasks for ourselves to do in order to accomplish our goals. Then we meet up, write to each other and keep each others accountable and help each other reach our goals. As we are already doing this, we decided to sit down together this year and do this little reflection exercise and set goals for 2020, so we can help each other reach those goals.
In order to reach what you want – you need to evaluate your current life. What do you like about where you are at? What don’t you like? Reflect back on the past year, as well as visualise your future – 1 year from now, 5 years from now. Where do you want to be?
Remember, once you have set your bigger goals for 2020, then it’s important to break them down into smaller actionable steps. You can write “finish this project” on your bigger goal list for the year, but to make it more manageable and easy to get started on, you need to break it down into smaller steps that you can easily start on. Fx if your goal for 2020 is to write a book, then your smaller steps could be: – brainstorm content for the book – do research for XYZ – write paragraph 1 in chapter 1 – write paragraph 2 in chapter 1 – read through and edit By breaking your big goal down into smaller steps, it feels much easier to begin the projects.
Here are some reflection questions to prepare you for 2020 ✨
– What were the best things about this year?
– What has life taught your this year?
– What don’t you want to take with you into 2020?
– What do you want to take with you into 2020?
– Where do you see yourself in 1 year?
– Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
– What do you want to accomplish in 2020?
– What will it take for you to reach those goals? What do you have to do to get there?
Question for you: Are you ready for 2020? What are some of your goals? I would love to know! Let’s root on each other, support each other and help and encourage each other to reach our dreams! 🙌✨
What you affirm grows. What you pay attention to grows. Become aware of this, and start to pay attention to the things you want more of in your life ✨
One of the biggest lessons I have learned in life so far, is that what you affirm grows and what you pay attention to grows. This goes for both good and bad things. If you pay attention to how much love you have in your life, and how kind, generous, inspirational people are – you will get more and see more of this. On the other hand, if you pay attention to how irritating, angry and frustrated people are – you will see more of this.
If you keep telling yourself that you are not good enough, you are ugly, you don’t deserve certain things – you will keep getting more of the things that affirms that this is true for you. However, if you start shifting your perception and tell yourself that you ARE good enough, that you are beautiful and that you deserve all the best in the world – your belief in yourself will grow, and you will start to recognise more and more things that will affirm you in your beliefs.
“What you pay attention to grows. If your attention is attracted to negative situations and emotions, then they will grow in your awareness” – Deepak Chopra
This means that YOU have the power over your life. You, and only you, can decide what you give your attention to. So what do you want in your life? Start to pay more attention to the things you want more of, and you will start to see how these show up more and more ✨
You might have seen this quote on Instagram before; “The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit“. This is so true, and such an important reminder to keep in mind. This applies to all things in life. Things do take time, and a continuous effort.
You might want to grow a business. This doesn’t happen over night. It takes time and effort. You can start to plant the seed for it, by starting a website or a blog – but that is not enough for you to have a business. You need to continuously water and nurture it, in order to make it grow.
The same goes for many other things in life. If you want a good relationship, you need to continuously water & nurture it. Put in the effort, plan dates, communicate also when things gets hard, do loving things for each other.
Whatever you want to see grow in your life – you need to give attention to, and water and nurture it, otherwise the seed will die out. But if you keep watering it and giving it love and attention, I promise you, one day the seed will have grown big and beautiful and you will be able to reap all the rewards from all the love, attention and dedication you put into it ✨
But remember, in order to grow anything, you also first need to plant the seed. If you want anything in life, you need to plant the intention of it, start it and then you can start to water it.
Self-care is not just pampering yourself with a bath and a face-mask, self-care is about way more than that. There is self-care on multiple levels. It’s all about nurturing & refuelling yourself ✨
When we hear the word ‘self-care’ we often tend to think about baths, saunas, wearing a facial mask etc. All the physical stuffs we can do to take care of ourselves. While I still think that that is important, there are self-care on multiple levels, and they are all really important to pay attention to.
Taking care of yourself is not just about pampering yourself on the outside. But doing this is good, because it can also make you feel good on the inside as well. But self-care is about waaaay more than just that. Self-care is taking care of your emotional and mental state, your spiritual beliefs, your relationship to others, your work.
A definition of self-care that I just learned through my school is this; Self-care is any activity that nurtures & refuels you on a deep level.
So tune into yourself and consider these areas of your life, do you feel good in these, or is there anything you can do to take better care of yourself in a specific area?
Physical Body – how do you feel about your body? Do you feel good? Energised? Calm? – think about what you can do to take better care of your body; go for a walk, stretch it, drink some more water, eat some veggies – take a bath, nourish your skin with a good oil and give yourself a face massage
Emotional & Mental State – your emotional & mental state is SO important. How are you? Have you allowed yourself to feel the emotions coming up? – feel free to cry if you need to – journal about your feelings, just write whatever is on your mind – talk to a good friend
Relationship to others – how is your relationships? To your partner (if you have one)? To your family? To your friends? – is there anything you want to work on? is there a relationship that no longer feels right for you? Tune into yourself, and feel. Relationships are one of the things that can really either give us SO much, or drain us
Work – how is your work/school situation? Are you happy doing what you do? Do you feel engaged & enthusiastic about it? Or does the thought of going there drag you down? Write down your thoughts and feelings about this. You don’t have to take any action towards changing things right now if you are not happy with it, just be honest with yourself and get your thoughts out
Question for you: Which area of your life needs some self-care? Share it, or write it down in a for yourself in a journal. Then think about how you can take better care of yourself within that area of your life
Ivy Lee is an acupuncturist, herbalist and energy healer. I found Ivy through Instagram where I have been following her for a while. She just continues to inspire me with her wisdom and all that she shares. You can learn more about her in this interview. Please welcome, Ivy.
Dear Ivy, will you tell us a little bit about yourself? Who you are and what you do? I’m an acupuncturist, herbalist, and energy healer. I draw upon an expertise in Chinese Medicine from my ancestral roots and infuse other therapeutic modalities to create a multi-sensory healing experience. My specialty is in women’s health and I love to help women feel empowered in their body and in life.
Why did you start to work with acupuncture / Chinese medicine? I grew up with Chinese Medicine from my family in Taiwan. Since I was young, I was very interested in learning about a variety of traditional healing practices. But being from an immigrant family, I felt the pressure of financial security and I went to work in corporate for many years. Then after a series of experiences I realized that I had a lot of knowledge and a unique gift for healing, and I felt a responsibility to share it with the world. That’s when I quit my corporate job and shifted to my path to doing acupuncture and healing work.
Can you tell what acupuncture is, and how it works? Chinese Medicine is based on a framework which sees that the body is intelligent and has an ability to heal itself. Symptoms and conditions are caused by imbalances in the body, so when the body is brought back into balance, the symptoms and conditions resolve. Acupuncture is one of the modalities within Chinese Medicine and it has been practiced for over 2,000 years. The insertion of very fine needles into specific points on the body influences the physiological functioning of the body and promotes balanced flow of energy.
Which experiences in your life have had a big impact on your own self-development? I had lived and traveled to over 30 countries by the age of 30. This had a significant impact on my self-development because it opened my mind. It offered me different perspectives in viewing the world and in viewing myself. It gave me an understanding of the many ways of being and the commonalities in human experience. It empowered me with the belief that I can create myself and create my life.
Which books have changed your life? I read a lot of books on Buddhism when I was young and that has influenced the way I navigate life. “When Things Fall Apart” by Pema Chodron. “The Practice of Lojong” by Traleg Kyabgon. “Loving Kindness” by Sharon Salzberg. “The Sacred Path of the Warrior” by Chögyam Trungpa. And so many more.
What do you feel the world needs more of? Forgiveness. This is needed to break the cycle of anger, hurt, and suffering.
Do you have some daily rituals that you do every single day? Sitting with tea, quieting the mind and coming to stillness.
Which people have inspired you most in your life? My mother inspires me in many ways, she embodies so much resilience and strength. She raised me with the values of integrity and honesty, to be true to others and most importantly to yourself.
If people want to learn more about you, or support you in any kind of way, where can they do this? I am the founder of Luminae Wellness in Oakland, California. I offer acupuncture treatments in-person at my healing space and I also offer virtual healing sessions. Reach out to me through my website www.luminaewellness.com or Instagram @luminaewellness
Thank you so much for answering my questions, and for being such a beautiful soul and sharing all your wisdom and for bringing a higher vibration to this world!
By learning to tune more into our own body and pay attention to it, you can learn to read your body’s signals. Then you know what your body is trying to tell you, then you can figure out what to give it to get better.
Learning to read your body’s signals can help you immensely. Because when you know what your body is trying to tell you, you can start to figure out what to do about it to get better. There can be a lot of trial and error in terms of finding out what your body is trying to tell you, but overall there are some major things that can easily be read.
If you are experiencing a headache, perhaps you either have not drunk enough water during the day, so try to reach out and drink some water and hydrate your body. It might also be that you have been doing too much and need some relaxing. If you have been sitting at the computer all day, get away from it a bit. Look outside, or close your eyes, and take some deep breaths and relax.
If you are feeling stomach ache, perhaps you have eaten something that doesn’t work for your body. For some people this is fx dairy, wheat, coffee. Try to pay attention to how you feel after eating certain foods. Then over time you can try to cut out a specific food, and see if this makes you feel better.
If you are experiencing dry skin, your body might try to tell you that it needs more healthy fats. Try to add more healthy fats into your diet; avocados, nuts, seeds etc.
These were just a few examples, but our bodies are telling us things all the time. We just need to slow down and listen to it. If you need a break, take a break. If you feel like using your body, go for a run or do a yoga session. Tune into yourself and read your body’s signals – and then do what it tells you to do.
Nicole Hemmer is a teacher, inspirational speaker and a writer with passion for spirituality and soul work. I met Nicole through Instagram, and she was just such a ray of positive light and inspiration right from the beginning, and such a kind and inspirering soul. Nicole has been travelling around the world, doing soul work, and has worked with many people from all over the world mentoring them and guiding them. Nicole also just released her very first book, Soul on Fire, which you can read much more about in this interview. Please welcome, Nicole.
Dear Nicole, will you tell us a little bit about yourself? Who you are and what you do?
I am originally from Canada, lived in Europe the past 3 years and am currently based in Bali, Indonesia. I also traveled to 50 countries by the time I was 25 years old, and have had a strong fire in my heart for freedom and global transformation from a young age.
I am a teacher, inspirational speaker, writer, women’s empowerment mentor, and author. I’ve led international workshops, classes, sacred circle’s and retreats with hundreds of women around the world and did my Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology (the study of psychology, spirituality and consciousness). My passion and expertise is in inspiring women to step into their power, unleashing their soul’s voice in the world, soul embodiment and Divine Feminine Soul Leadership.
How did you first become interested in spirituality?
I first became interested in spirituality when I was 14 years old. I felt a strong hunger in my heart for spirituality and knew that my reason for being on this Earth was connected to this, and was a core component of my purpose. I also started to do yoga and meditation at this age, and was reading books on healing, the chakra’s, intuition, psychic abilities, eastern philosophy and consciousness. My mother was also open to spirituality and introduced me to crystals, colour baths, hands on healing, and personal development.
Which events in your life has completely changed your life?
Moving to Berlin when I was 25 years old changed my life, and was the catalyst for me to start doing the work with women that I was initiated and called to do. Living in Japan when I was 22 years old also changed my life, and brought me back to my soul’s essence and taught me what it means to be a woman in her feminine essence.
A paramount moment for me on my path was when my parents separated when I was 19 years old, and I entered a dark night of the soul period. During this time, I made the commitment to myself and vow that I would never allow any situation or circumstance to close my heart. I promised myself I would stay open no matter what throughout this lifetime, and always keep my heart open. To allow challenging and painful experiences to crack my heart open even wider, and allow pain and suffering to be the gateway to going deeper within myself….
Which books have changed your life?
Initiation by Elizabeth Haich
The Seven Wisdoms of Life by Shai Tubali
What do you feel the world needs more of?
I strongly feel that the world needs more love, presence and consciousness now more than ever. I feel that heart and soul aligned leadership in women is paramount in a time when the feminine has been denigrated and severely suppressed on the earth. Women need to step into their power and reclaim their voice. The earth is screaming for our help and support, and I feel it is my mission to be a beacon of expression for the Divine Feminine consciousness—to activate, ignite and initiate women into their soul and burning truth.
“I strongly feel that the world needs more love, presence and consciousness now more than ever”
What is your best advice for people dealing with self-doubt?
Self doubt is derived from the small self—and is not our true nature. When we connect to our Higher Self, that is rooted in Divine Confidence, Divine Knowing and Divine Trust—we live in unshakable confidence true to our soul. When we embody and connect to our soul, it is rooted in love and truth. Our small self is controlled by fear, lack and self doubt.
Do you have some daily rituals that you do every single day?
Everyday I place my hands on my heart when I wake up and when I go to sleep. I pray for people that come into my awareness everyday. I stay in an open state where I feel my inspiration and then take inspired action based on what I feel called to do. I love to spend time in nature. I love being in silence—for in silence I can feel and attune myself deeper to the wisdom and knowing of my heart.
What are your favourite practices to raise your vibration?
Some of my favourite practices to strengthen my energetic field is time in nature, time in water, and meditation. I also love aromatherapy oils and rose water spray. Living here in Bali, I love to go to sacred water temples for purification and cleansing..
Which 3 people have inspired you most in your life?
Mary Magdalene, Elizabeth Haich, and Powerful Women Leaders of Light on this Earth that are fierce and true.
You have just released your first book, can you tell us a little bit about it?
Over the last year, I’ve been creating and birthing my first book entitled Soul On Fire: Divine Reminders on the Path of Awakening.This book is a sacred jewel of inspiration for any woman looking to deepen into her humanity—and her divinity. This project reflects my sacred work in the world and I am thrilled to be stepping forward with sharing it with the world…
The book contains transmissions and evolutionary adventures from my own journey, plus self-portraits captured during my travels around the world. My vision is by reading this book, you’ll receive an activation into your deepest truth and soul’s knowing. Whether you receive the words and images in this book as a meditation, or simply as sparkling soul musings, Soul On Fire will awaken, ignite and strengthen your remembrance and connection with the Divine in your own life.
Some of the chapters included in the book are: Authenticity, A New Earth and Feeling the Future, Living the Extraordinary, Beyond Fear, Pain, Warrior of Light, Natural Wild Beauty, Sisterhood, Divine Feminine, Divine Masculine, Money and Abundance, Clarity, Mystical Knowing, The Higher Self, Inspiration…etc.
If people want to learn more about you, or support you in any kind of way, where can they do this?
They can connect with me on Facebook, or check out my website and subscribe to my – Soul Inspiration – newsletter that I send to sisters and women of light around the world. Or follow me on Instagram which is actually how Camilla and I connected! 😉
To be able to receive anything in life, you must be willing to give the same thing. It’s all connected. This concept, is also known as the concept of ‘Karma’ and has been around for thousand of years.
The concept of giving and receiving has been around for thousand of years. It is also known as the concept ‘Karma‘ in some Eastern religions. Karma is the cycle of cause and effect – each action a person takes will affect him or her at some time in the future. This also applies to a person’s thoughts and words, and the actions other people take under that individual’s instructions.
For me, it makes perfect sense. If you are kind to others, it is far more likely that others want to be kind to you as well. If you, on the other hand, treat others badly, odds are that this will come back to you at some point.
Give what you want to receive.
By giving what you want to receive, you send out the vibration of whatever that is and then you become on the same vibrational level and will be ready to receive that.
If you want more love in your life, then it does not help to be angry/sad about the lack of love you have, that will only give you more of that – lack of love. But by choosing to send out more love, you will also be receiving more love.
So find out what it is you want more of in life – Love? Fun? Kindness? Generosity? And then think about how you can give those things to others. It is the flow of life – the circle of life – what you give, you will receive. If you want to dive deeper into this concept, I can recommend reading “Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” by Deepak Chopra, it is a beautiful little book, which explains this concept very well.
Sometimes we can become very overwhelmed and feeling stressed by having too many things going on. At these points in time, it can be very helpful to have some practices to help you relax & tune into yourself, which can help calm your mind and nervous system. So today I want to share 3 of these practices with you, which I personally use to help to tune into myself, relax and calm my mind.
Yoga is an amazing way to help you to tune into yourself. Sometimes we spend too much time in our head, worrying, stressing, overthinking etc. And then it can be so helpful to come from our heads and into our bodies instead. Yoga is a form of practice which can definitely help you to connect your mind and body, and to help you calm down and help you to tune more into yourself.
If you want to calm down I can recommend some more restorative yoga, or Yin Yoga, which are very calming practices. However, sometimes moving your body some more can be exactly what you need, and when that is the case, you can look into trying some Hatha or Vinyasa yoga.
One of the easiest ways to tune into yourself is to meditate. You can literally meditate wherever you are. All you need to do is to close your eyes and breathe and just let your thoughts come and go. Just focus on your breath, tune into yourself and relax. You can also practice mindfulness, which is being present wherever you are – whether that be doing the dishes, cleaning the house, driving in train or anything else. Just be present, breathe and be where you are.
Be in Nature
Sometimes, one of the best ways to relax and tune into yourself, is to go for a walk, or just be, in nature. Just feeling the sun on your skin, feeling the fresh air in your hair, listening to the birds sing, feeling the ground beneath you. Just getting grounded and being present in the now.
Do you have any practices that always help you to relax & tune into yourself? Feel free to share them in the comments, and let us all inspire each other.
Everything you bring into your life has energy and that will affect you and your life. Therefore, it is so important to become aware about what we surround ourselves with – who do we spend our time with? What job do we have? What food do we eat? I will share some of the ways in which what you bring into your life can affect you, and I hope this will make you see how much of an affect it can have upon your life – and how you can change it, if you want to live a different life from what you are currently living.
The food you eat can either be fresh and whole, like lots of vegetables, nuts, seeds, fruits, which contributes to fuel your body, your skin and your energy level. But, it can also be sugary, highly processed food with no nutritional value which actually does the opposite and drains you for energy. Become aware of what you eat. Of course, everything in life is about balance, and you should definitely treat yourself if you want a cake once in a while, but look at what you eat for the majority of the day. If you feel sluggish and tired all the time, try eating more vegetables and drink more water, and see what a difference that does to your body.
We spend most of our lives on our jobs, so just think about if you go to your job almost every single day with the thought “oh no… not another day“, then you fill yourself up with negative energy for most of the week.
I know that it might not always be possible to find a job that you love right away, so while you are on the hunt for a job that will excite you, try to use some gratitude and positive thoughts for the job you DO have at the moment. Because we can only get more, by being grateful for what we already have. Be grateful for the income you are getting, for your kind colleagues, etc. Find small things to be grateful for, and your days will become a lot better.
Relationships are probably one of THE MOST important areas to look at in terms of what energy you bring into your life. Because if you have relationships (not only romantic ones, just as well friendships and family relations) where you spend the majority of your time together fighting, spending time with people who are always negative, criticising etc. then this will drain your energy. Figure out if you want this in your life, or start to search for other friendships/relationships.
Of course we all have downtimes and I’m not saying just ‘cut off’ someone because they have a bad day, or are going through a rough time, but I think we all know the difference between people who are dealing with something for a while, and people who are negative all the time.
Have you ever heard the saying: “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with“? Look at who you are spending most of your time with. Are they people who you love, who inspire you, uplift you, who you genuinely enjoy spending time with?
Music is another way to bring energy into your life. Whenever you listen to music, do you then listen to sad songs all the time? Or, do you listen to uplifting, positive soundtracks? This is such an easy switch to make to instantly lift your mood.
Fx does Spotify have several different playlists for specific moods, try to choose a more uplifting and positive one in your daily life and see what a difference this makes to your mood.
Life is simply too short to surround yourself with things that doesn’t make you happy. Seriously, do you sit at home and just feel like “eh..” over your room, apartment or house? There is really no need to. Start clearing up and throw out all of the things that doesn’t make you happy (for this little project I can recommend Marie Kondo’s book ‘The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up“). Hereafter, everytime you bring something new into your life really think about if this is something that makes you happy and excited. Create a home and a create a feeling that inspires you and which makes you feel happy and at home.
Mindset, another huge one, which is so important. If you have been following me for a while either here or on my Instagram, you know that I truly believe that if you“change your mind you can change your life“, and that you create your own reality.
The thoughts you think, and the feelings you have are of such importance to the life you are living. No matter what happens to you, know that it is your choice how you want to respond to that situation. It’s all up to you!
If you want to start working on changing your mindset, I recommend starting with working on:
I hope this blogpost can help you see that there are SO many ways in which we bring energies into our lives, and that we can truly change our life by choosing what we led into our lives, whether that be people we spend time with, music we listen to, food we eat or the thoughts we think.