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WHEN YOU ARE YOU, YOU ATTRACT THE RIGHT PEOPLE

Today I want to remind you to be completely yourself. Because when you are YOU, you attract the right people ✨

It’s really simple, when you are completely yourself, you attract the right people into your life. When you fully show up as who you are, what your interest and passions are – you allow the people who are on the same path as you to find you. But if you pretend to be someone else, or just to ‘fit in’, you won’t find those friendships / relationships where you have things in common.

Be completely yourself and the right people will find you! We are all different, and that is so beautiful, we all have different interests, passions, life goals etc. and there should be room for everyone.

So this was simply a little reminder to shine your light and let the people who needs to find you see your light 🙌✨

Self-development

USE ACTION TO CURE FEAR

Do you have big dreams and goals, that at times seems so big that you become completely paralysed about what to do? Use action to cure fear! ✨

Not that long ago I read two books that have motivated me even more to start taking more action towards my dreams. One was “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz and the other was “Eat that Frog” by Brian Tracy. Both books have reminded me of the magic of taking action!

We often tend to overthink, worry and build up things in our heads, and even though it might be things we want to do, or we just tell ourselves that they are too difficult, we build them up and end up procrastinating out of fear of doing the thing.

You probably already know the feeling. You have a big dream, but it might be so big that you get completely paralysed as to what to do to even achieve that big dream, that you end up doing nothing at all.

Here comes the lesson: “Action cures fear“, as David Schwartz says in his book. Take action, and the fear will go away. And, as I’ve talked about a thousand times before – taking action towards big dreams can be completely overwhelming, but if you break down your big goal into smaller, more actionable steps, and then just start taking one step, and then the next and then the next – eventually you will get there!

If you’re reading this post, take this as a sign to begin to TAKE ACTION on your dreams and goals! Write down the big dream, and write down all the little things you can start doing that will help you get closer towards that goal ✨

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WHAT YOU AFFIRM GROWS

What you affirm grows. What you pay attention to grows. Become aware of this, and start to pay attention to the things you want more of in your life ✨

One of the biggest lessons I have learned in life so far, is that what you affirm grows and what you pay attention to grows. This goes for both good and bad things. If you pay attention to how much love you have in your life, and how kind, generous, inspirational people are – you will get more and see more of this. On the other hand, if you pay attention to how irritating, angry and frustrated people are – you will see more of this.

If you keep telling yourself that you are not good enough, you are ugly, you don’t deserve certain things – you will keep getting more of the things that affirms that this is true for you. However, if you start shifting your perception and tell yourself that you ARE good enough, that you are beautiful and that you deserve all the best in the world – your belief in yourself will grow, and you will start to recognise more and more things that will affirm you in your beliefs.

“What you pay attention to grows. If your attention is attracted to negative situations and emotions, then they will grow in your awareness”
– Deepak Chopra

This means that YOU have the power over your life. You, and only you, can decide what you give your attention to. So what do you want in your life? Start to pay more attention to the things you want more of, and you will start to see how these show up more and more ✨

Holistic & Spiritual living Self-development

THE DAY YOU PLANT THE SEED IS NOT THE DAY YOU EAT THE FRUIT

You might have seen this quote on Instagram before; “The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit“. This is so true, and such an important reminder to keep in mind. This applies to all things in life. Things do take time, and a continuous effort.

You might want to grow a business. This doesn’t happen over night. It takes time and effort. You can start to plant the seed for it, by starting a website or a blog – but that is not enough for you to have a business. You need to continuously water and nurture it, in order to make it grow.

The same goes for many other things in life. If you want a good relationship, you need to continuously water & nurture it. Put in the effort, plan dates, communicate also when things gets hard, do loving things for each other.

Whatever you want to see grow in your life – you need to give attention to, and water and nurture it, otherwise the seed will die out. But if you keep watering it and giving it love and attention, I promise you, one day the seed will have grown big and beautiful and you will be able to reap all the rewards from all the love, attention and dedication you put into it ✨

But remember, in order to grow anything, you also first need to plant the seed. If you want anything in life, you need to plant the intention of it, start it and then you can start to water it.

Self-development

HOW DOING LESS CAN GIVE YOU MORE

In this post I want to remind you of a simple fact, and that is how doing less can give you more ✨

This saying might sound counterintuitive. But it really is true. When you give your attention and full focus to one thing, you will not only accomplish it easier, but you will also do it better, which will give you better results in the long run.

If you work on a project, while you at the same time are replying to emails, cooking food etc. then you do not give that project your full attention & energy.

Your work deserves your full attention. So do yourself the honour of giving yourself time to dive into and focus on one thing at a time.

You will come to see how you get better results, and how the work that you do, will be able to touch even more people, because of the energy you have put into it.

Read also: Learn to Read Your Body’s Signals

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REPROGRAMMING YOUR MIND

As kids we learn things by our parents and those closest to us, this can be both good and bad. If you have limiting self-beliefs, then reprogramming your mind is a way to turn your confidence around and start believing more in yourself ✨

The majority of our lives we run on autopilot – we do the things we have learned to do over and over again. However these things might not always be in your best interest.

Our subconscious mind runs on autopilot, and the things we have learned to do subconsciously we learned in our early childhood days. By watching and observing our parents and those closest to us. This can be both good and bad. You have learned to walk and talk this way, which is wonderful things!

But you might also have learned self-doubt, negative self-talk, how you handle conflicts etc. this way. If you want to change how you live your life and your habits, you need to dig real deep and find out what beliefs you learned in your early childhood and then start to actively work on changing those daily.

This can fx be if you grew up with a parent who talked negatively about themselves, you might feel like that yourself and have convinced yourself over years and years of this way of talking to yourself that you are not good enough. If you want to change this, start to work with affirmations. See this post for examples on positive affirmations. Start to write things down that you feel good about yourself, tell it to yourself – and do it consistently! These subconscious beliefs take time to change, so you have to keep working on them, otherwise it’s easy to fall right back into old destructive patterns 💫

Questions for you: Which beliefs did you carry with you from childhood? What behaviours are you actively trying to change? Or would like to change? ✨

Read also: Growth Mindset

Self-development

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE

Learning to see that there is no such thing as failure has been one of the biggest life-changing experience for me.

Whenever you experience something that you think is a ‘failure’, learn to see this thing as a way to figure out what is right and what is not right for you. Of course it’s okay to be sad and down about something not working out the way you had hoped for, but if you can change your way of thinking of it as a failure to a lesson, you have a lot to gain!

Perhaps you have experienced a failed relationship. But don’t view it as a failure and a waste of time. Through that ‘failed’ relationship you learned what it is that you actually want out of a relationship, and what you do not want in one.

“If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost”

Perhaps you have experienced a job that was certainly not right for you. Don’t view it as a waste of time or mistake. If you hadn’t had that job, you wouldn’t know what it is that you do not want, and what it is that you do want, in a job.

Learn to see failures not as failures, but as things guiding you towards what is just right for you. Learn to see failures as good things taking you exactly towards where YOU are meant to be, and life will be way more fun and beautiful in this way!

I want to end this little write with reminding you of Thomas Edison, the guy who eventually invented the light bulb. Edison failed many, many times, but said that: “I haven’t failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work“.

Read also: You don’t need to see the whole staircase

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IF IT’S NOT SCHEDULED, IT’S NOT REAL

One of my big inspirations Marie Forleo, always says that “If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real“, and that’s what I want to talk about today.

If you don’t already know Marie Forleo and her youtube channel MarieTV, then you should definitely check it out! She has so much inspiring content, and has interviews with so many inspirational people (Tony Robbins, Brené Brown, Elizabeth Gilbert, Steven Pressfield etc.).

Anyways, Marie have this saying that “If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real“. And man, is that right! Yet, it’s so easy to forget.

We often have a list of all the things we want to do; workout, do meal prepping, hang out with our friends, work on that project etc. However, if you do not plan it – schedule it – find specific date and time for when to do it, it’s not real.

So in order to make your dreams and goals real, you need to sit down with yourself and plan when and where to work on your goals.

“If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real” – Marie Forleo

Let’s take an example: you want to start working out. That’s great. However, it’s also very unclear and vague. When should that be? And how?

Take your calendar out and make a commitment with yourself:
Every Monday, Wednesday and Friday I will go for a 25 minutes run.

Or, it could be: Every Tuesday from 9-11am I’ll work on creating content for my business.

Make it concrete. Make it actionable. Then put it into your calendar, and keep your commitments to yourself!

Question for you: What do you want to work on? Fx do you want to start working out? Do you have a specific project you want to work on? How can you break it down into actionable steps, and schedule it in your calendar?

Read also: Get Clear on What you Want in Life

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GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE

If you want anything in life, the first step to getting it, is knowing what it is that you want. Get clear on what you want in life.

Sounds pretty obvious, right? However, many of us don’t have a clear vision of exactly what it is that we want, so we don’t really know what we are going after, which can end up with us getting something that we don’t actually want.

Perhaps you have heard about ‘the law of attraction’, which is about how ‘like attract like’ and how what you focus on is what you get more of. Have you ever thought about what your main focus is? Is it on the things that you want in your life? Or, is it on all the things that you think are wrong in your life.

“Clarity is power. The more clear you are about what you want the more likely you are to achieve it” – Billy Cox

Sit down with yourself, and get clear on what you want. You don’t have to have all the answers, but get an idea of the life you want to live. What do you want to do? Where do you want to live? Which people do you want to spend your time with? etc. Consider these things.

Once you have a good idea of what it is that you want, then write it down. Make a list. A list of the things you want in life, and don’t limit yourself, dream big. Write it down, make it visual for yourself.

Once you have written it down, you can start to work on one goal at a time. Take a goal, and break it down into smaller more manageable steps. Then make a plan on when to do what, and just get started.

Read also: Growth Mindset

Books Self-development

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: THE MAGIC OF THINKING BIG

If you are someone with big dreams and are looking for some real good motivation, then this book is definitely for you! Today I have a BIG book recommendation for you: The Magic of Thinking Big.

Wauw. This book was amazing! I felt so uplifted and inspired all the way through reading it, and I highlighted so much in it. “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz is all about how we limit ourselves by our beliefs. We can only achieve what we let ourselves believe is possible. He encourages people to think BIG!

Most importantly of all, he encourages people to ACT on their dreams & visions. Because without action, you will never reach your dreams. He uses this lovely phrase “Action cures fear“. It is such a great phrase, and something I can definitely recognise. Sometimes we work things up in our head, overthink and everything and we never get to do the things we want to do. However, as soon as we start, flow follows and we find that it really isn’t that hard, we just have to take action and begin.

This book contains everything from how to combat limiting beliefs, how to go after your dreams, how to build confidence, how you are what you think and so much more. I will go as far to say, that this is one of the best books I have ever read, I can highly recommend it!

Find the book here: The Magic of Thinking Big – David Schwartz*
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Quotes from the book:

“Action cures fear”

“Believe, really believe, you can move a mountain and you can. Not many people believe the they can move mountains. So, as a result, not many people do”

“The how-to-do-it always comes to the person who believes he cn do it”
“A person is a product of his own thoughts. Believe big”

“Others see in us what we see in ourselves. We receive the kind of treatment we think we deserve”

“The body is what the body is fed. By the same token, the mind is what the mind is fed”

“Give your ideas value by acting on them”

How about you, have you read any good books lately? I would as always love to know! As I’m always on the lookout for great new books to read!

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