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WHAT LIMITING BELIEFS ARE HOLDING YOU BACK?

What limiting beliefs are holding you back from reaching your full potential? Let’s talk about all the things you tell yourself day in and day out, because those thoughts are more powerful than you might think ✨

Have you ever paid attention, to what you say to yourself? I don’t mean what you say out verbally to yourself, but to all the things you tell yourself during the day? What thoughts run through your head when you pass a mirror? What thoughts come up when you speak to someone else? What thoughts do you tell yourself about whether or not you can do something?

For a lot of people, these thoughts are not very positive and encouraging. actually, they can be quite the opposite, they can be harmful, negative and limiting.

And as I’ve mentioned so many times in here – what you focus on grows. Also what you might not have been consciously focusing on, like the things you tell yourself daily in your head.

Become Aware of Your Thoughts

The first step to changing this, is to become aware of your thoughts. Every time you are about to or you have just thought a negative, limiting thought about yourself – stop yourself, and try to “recreate” the thought to a positive and more encouraging one.

At first, you might not believe yourself. But the important thing is to become aware. Because all kind of change, first starts with awareness.

When you have become aware of what kind of things you tell yourself, identify those thoughts. Why do you even say or think these things?

Perhaps you’ve been told for years in school that you are a shy girl who does not speak up. Over the years you’ve taken this identity to you by keep reinforcing those beliefs, which have probably held you back from many things in life – fx feeling comfortable with doing presentations, speaking up etc.

But is there actually any true to this ‘identity’? You can choose to change it, but it does take time. Because something you’ve been identifying yourself as for years, can’t just be changed from one day to the next.

But by becoming aware, and starting to tell yourself a new story and try new things that challenge your prior belief – and keep doing this over and over again, you can change your identity and thereby your reality and your own perception of yourself ✨

Read also: Positive Affirmations


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FORGIVENESS IS NOT FOR OTHERS, IT IS FOR YOURSELF

Today I want to talk about choosing to forgive. Forgiveness is not for others, it is for yourself 🙏✨

Forgiving others. We often talk about certain things as being something we can’t forgive. And if people have done you wrong in any kind of way they perhaps they do not deserve your forgiveness. But what I wanted to talk about today is why you need to forgive others, in your own mind, for your own sake.

If you keep holding onto anger, resentment, jealousy about what someone else did to you – then who does that harm? Only yourself. I know the feeling, even though you can feel like your negative vibes are somehow punishing someone else, in reality, you are only hurting yourself even more – and you deserve better than that.

I wanted to address this topic, because not only is it damaging for your mental health to carry anger, jealousy etc. But, if we look at the body from a holistic point of view (which I’m all about), then according to Traditional Chinese Medicine, emotions and physical health are intimately connected. Sadness, nervous tension and anger, worry, fear and overwork are each associated with a particular organ in the body.

Fx irritability and anger can affect the liver and result in menstrual pain, headache, redness of the face and eyes, dizziness and dry mouth.
So not only are you hurting yourself mentally by holding onto things, but you are also creating dis-ease in your own body and doing physical harm to yourself.

Again, forgiving others does not necessarily make what someone did to you okay, but forgiving others can be a way to set yourself free.

The only person you hurt by holding onto things, is yourself. I’ll recommend to write a letter (just for yourself), and truly express your feelings and then choose to forgive and let it go 🙏✨

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YEAR & QUARTERLY GOALS (PRINTABLE PDF FILES)

Achieve your goals with this method! Here you get some Year & Quarterly Goals in printable PDF files, to help you stay on track with your goals all year round! 🙌✨

I did this exercise last year, and it helped me stay on track with my goals throughout the year, and I accomplished almost all the goals I set on my list for goals I wanted to achieve in 2019. I have just done the exact same exercise again but for 2020, and I can’t wait to stay on track again this year with actively pursuing and working towards reaching my goals.

How do you do it?


Year Goals

Find Goals file here


Print 1 copy of the ‘Goals’ file:
On this page you write down all the goals you want to achieve this year. Remember, it’s okay to have many dreams, but also be realistic about what you can achieve within 1 year.

Find Quarterly Goals file here


Print 4 copies of the ‘Quarterly Goals’ file:
On these pages, you write “1st quarter” (1. January – 31. March) / “2nd Quarter (1. April – 30. June) / “3rd Quarter (1. July – 30. September) / “4th Quarter (1. October – 31. December)

Now you look at your Goals for the entire year, and then you begin with the first ones you want to accomplish, and write these under the ‘important to achieve’ section.

After you have done this, you can break down the goal even further in the section below. Write down the actual steps you need to take to accomplish this goal.

Write down all 4 quarters, so it covers all your goals for the year.

Now if you have a stick board over your desk, or somewhere where you’ll look at it often, then put your first quarterly goal paper up here. Now for the first quarter of this year, only focus on these goals. Don’t think too much about all your goals for the year, but focus only on the first ones.

Let’s take an example on how to do it:
One of my Goals for this year is to become a certified Holistic Health Coach, so this is what I have written on my Goals for the year.

On my Quarterly goals I have then written down what I need to do in order to make that come true, which involves:
– Accomplishing X amount of Health Histories
– Take my weekly classes
– Accomplish the tests during the year
– Participate in Coaching Circles

So what do you say? Do you want to actively work towards your goals and dreams this year? 🙌✨

“A Goal is a Dream with a deadline”

I would recommend reading this post first, and doing the reflection questions in there, and then you can fill out these goals documents afterwards.

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YOU CANNOT CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE, THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN CHANGE IS YOURSELF

We cannot change other people. The only person you can change is yourself. But by showing others that you can change, you show them the opportunities they have at hand as well 🌱✨

It can often feel frustrating when you see your dear ones doing things that doesn’t do them any good, and you want to help them change their habits so they can feel better. It could be a parent smoking, seeing someone in deep debt, or seeing someone eating lots of junk and not taking care of their health. Often we want to help our dear ones to make them feel better, but know this – you cannot help a person who does not want to be helped. So we cannot change other people, as frustrating as that is. But what we can do, is showing others the possibilities they have at hand, by doing the work ourselves.

And funnily enough, very often, the things we see in others, are mirrors of things we have in ourselves. So do the work. Focus on yourself. Once people see you have done something, this will inspire them way more, than you telling them to try this and that or stop doing something.

Be patient. You might not change someones life from one day to the next, just by showing them what’s possible. But never underestimate the power of planting a seed 🌱✨

“If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change” – Michael Jackson

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WHAT I READ IN 2019 & WHAT’S ON MY READING LIST FOR 2020

Today I want to share with you what I read in 2019 & what’s on my reading list for 2020. I hope this post can give you some book inspiration ✨📖

If you are like me – then you love books! I’m always on the hunt for another great book to read. I love all kinds of books, but especially within the self-development & holistic health genre. So if you are into the same, then you might find some inspiration in this post.

Last year I sat a goal for myself to read 20+ books, and I managed to do so! I read 21 books, and I absolutely love how much I have learned & I just love to keep expanding my mind and worldview.

What I read in 2019:
– “Rise Sister Rise” – Rebecca Campbell
– “Idiot’s Guide to Ayurveda” – Sahara Rose
– “Shine” – Andy Cope & Gavin Oattes
– “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” – Deepak Chopra
– “Money and the Law of Attraction” – Esther & Jerry Hicks
– “Think & Grow Rich” – Napoleon Hill
– “Gut” – Giulia Enders
– “Intelligent Cells” – Bruce Lipton
– “Brain Maker” – David Perlmutter
– “The Beauty of Dirty Skin” – Whitney Bowe
– “Creating Affluence” – Deepak Chopra
– “Creative Visualization” – Shakti Gawain
– “Atomic Habits” – James Clear
– “Holistic Dental Care” – Nadine Artemis
– “Eat that Frog!” – Brian Tracy
– “The Magic of Thinking Big” – David J. Schwartz
– “Light is the New Black” – Rebecca Campbell
– “The War of Art” – Steven Pressfield
– “The Seat of the Soul” – Gary Zukav
– “You are a Badass at Making Money” – Jen Sincero
– “Find Gaven i Dine Forældres Skilsmisse” – Ida Golriz

I loved all the books, but the ones that really had a big impact on me was “The Magic of Thinking Big“, “Brain Maker” and “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success“. I would also highly recommend my dear friend Idas book “Find Gaven i Dine Forældres Skilsmisse” if your parents are going through a divorce, or if you are a parent going through a divorce.

Now on to the next topic – what I then want to read in 2020. I have sat the same goal for myself this year, that I want to read 20+ books, and I already have a lot of great ones on my hand, waiting to be explored.

What I want to read in 2020:
– “Awaken the Giant Within” – Tony Robbins
– “Energy Medicine” Jill Blakeway
– “The Tapping Solution” – Nick Ortner
– “Kaizen” – Robert Maurer
– “Bevidsthedens Udstråling” – Frank Lorenzen
– “Super Attractor” – Gabrielle Bernstein
– “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” – Joe Dispenza
– “The Code of the Extraordinary Mind” – Vishen Lakhiami
– “Wishes Fulfilled” – Wayne W. Dyer

But as I said, I’m always open for new books, and my 2020 list haven’t reached 20 books yet, so if you have any good recommendations, please share them with me in the comments! I would also love to know what’s on your reading list for 2020? Lots of love x ✨📖

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WHAT YOU WATER WILL GROW

If you want something in your life, know that what you water will grow. It might not come from one day to the next, but consistent, continuous action will make the plant grow 🌱✨

The seed you water and takes care of, is the seed that will grow into a plant. Water the things you want to see grow in your life. Do you want more things to be grateful for? Start by looking at the things you already have in your life, and be grateful for that. If you want to get better at anything specific – give it your attention and do the work.

The concept of what you water will grow also goes the opposite way. If you keep on complaining about things, you will continue to find things to complain about and you’ll get stuck in a rut.

Be clear with yourself about what you want and what you don’t want in your life. Once you know this, you can start to give attention and water the things you want to see grow and flourish 🌱✨

Question for you: So what are you going to water this year? Love, happiness, a specific project? Go give it all your attention and eventually you will watch it grow ✨

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MAKE YOUR OWN DEFINITION OF A ‘RICH LIFE’

It’s so easy nowadays with social media to get caught up in other people’s dreams and goals. Seeing people travelling the world, seeing people do big things and thinking that you want the same that others have. But here it is so important to tune into yourself, and really ask yourself about what YOU want for your life. Make your own definition of a ‘rich life’ ✨

I have for sure been caught up in other people’s dreams before, thinking that I wanted XYZ for my own life. Yet beginning to chase some things, and starting to feel more into what it would actually be like having those things or living that way, it just didn’t resonate with me. Remember, we are ALL different, and that is the beauty of life. Let’s inspire each other, show what’s possible, reach new heights, but always remember to check in with yourself and ask if the dreams you are seeking actually makes you happy? Is that really want your life to be like? Or does the thought of actually living a specific way don’t make you feel good, and you simply do it out of the thought that that is what you should do?

Sit down with yourself – often, because your goals and dreams will change over time when you change as a person – and be very honest with yourself about what kind of life you want to live. What does success mean to you? How do YOU want your life to be like?

Ask yourself these questions:
– What kind of life do I want to live?
– What do I want to spend most of my time on?
– Is there something I would regret not doing in my life?
– Where do I want to live?
– How do I want to live?

This is YOUR life, and you should create it exactly as you want it ✨

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PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

If you wait until you’re ready, you’ll never do anything. It’s all about progress not perfection ✨ So start that project, do that workshop, release that song. Send it out into this world.

That one thing you’ve always been wanting to do, but haven’t done yet because you are afraid that it’s not perfect – put it out into the world! If you keep on waiting and waiting and never get the things out, you’ll never be able to reach those dreams, or improve the thing. The first things you put out in the world – whether that be a workshop, a book, a movie, a song, will probably never be ‘perfect’. But because of that first piece you put out, you’re now able to learn from that first thing and do it even better the next time, and the next. But if you never put it out, you’ll never improve and you’ll end up disappointing yourself for never having tried.

It’s all about progress, not perfection. See everything you do as a learning opportunity. The first time a child walks, it will fall down so many times. But it does not give up. It keeps trying and trying, until it eventually one day walks.

But so many people nowadays give up so easily, if they feel like they are ‘failing’. But there is no such thing as failure, there is only learning that is a spring board for you to become even better.

“If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of your lives”
– Lemony Snicket

Take this as a sign to start that project. Send it out into the world. Begin it, and don’t worry about it being perfect. Rather worry about it never reaching the world. Make it, send it out, learn from it and see what amazing things will come your way once you start to send out your creations ✨

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WHEN YOU ARE YOU, YOU ATTRACT THE RIGHT PEOPLE

Today I want to remind you to be completely yourself. Because when you are YOU, you attract the right people ✨

It’s really simple, when you are completely yourself, you attract the right people into your life. When you fully show up as who you are, what your interest and passions are – you allow the people who are on the same path as you to find you. But if you pretend to be someone else, or just to ‘fit in’, you won’t find those friendships / relationships where you have things in common.

Be completely yourself and the right people will find you! We are all different, and that is so beautiful, we all have different interests, passions, life goals etc. and there should be room for everyone.

So this was simply a little reminder to shine your light and let the people who needs to find you see your light 🙌✨

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USE ACTION TO CURE FEAR

Do you have big dreams and goals, that at times seems so big that you become completely paralysed about what to do? Use action to cure fear! ✨

Not that long ago I read two books that have motivated me even more to start taking more action towards my dreams. One was “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz and the other was “Eat that Frog” by Brian Tracy. Both books have reminded me of the magic of taking action!

We often tend to overthink, worry and build up things in our heads, and even though it might be things we want to do, or we just tell ourselves that they are too difficult, we build them up and end up procrastinating out of fear of doing the thing.

You probably already know the feeling. You have a big dream, but it might be so big that you get completely paralysed as to what to do to even achieve that big dream, that you end up doing nothing at all.

Here comes the lesson: “Action cures fear“, as David Schwartz says in his book. Take action, and the fear will go away. And, as I’ve talked about a thousand times before – taking action towards big dreams can be completely overwhelming, but if you break down your big goal into smaller, more actionable steps, and then just start taking one step, and then the next and then the next – eventually you will get there!

If you’re reading this post, take this as a sign to begin to TAKE ACTION on your dreams and goals! Write down the big dream, and write down all the little things you can start doing that will help you get closer towards that goal ✨