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FORGIVENESS IS NOT FOR OTHERS, IT IS FOR YOURSELF

Today I want to talk about choosing to forgive. Forgiveness is not for others, it is for yourself 🙏✨

Forgiving others. We often talk about certain things as being something we can’t forgive. And if people have done you wrong in any kind of way they perhaps they do not deserve your forgiveness. But what I wanted to talk about today is why you need to forgive others, in your own mind, for your own sake.

If you keep holding onto anger, resentment, jealousy about what someone else did to you – then who does that harm? Only yourself. I know the feeling, even though you can feel like your negative vibes are somehow punishing someone else, in reality, you are only hurting yourself even more – and you deserve better than that.

I wanted to address this topic, because not only is it damaging for your mental health to carry anger, jealousy etc. But, if we look at the body from a holistic point of view (which I’m all about), then according to Traditional Chinese Medicine, emotions and physical health are intimately connected. Sadness, nervous tension and anger, worry, fear and overwork are each associated with a particular organ in the body.

Fx irritability and anger can affect the liver and result in menstrual pain, headache, redness of the face and eyes, dizziness and dry mouth.
So not only are you hurting yourself mentally by holding onto things, but you are also creating dis-ease in your own body and doing physical harm to yourself.

Again, forgiving others does not necessarily make what someone did to you okay, but forgiving others can be a way to set yourself free.

The only person you hurt by holding onto things, is yourself. I’ll recommend to write a letter (just for yourself), and truly express your feelings and then choose to forgive and let it go 🙏✨

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FORGIVENESS IS THE ONLY WAY TO HEAL

Yesterday I was reading in the book “The Four Agreements“* (which is a must-read!) and the quote “Forgiveness is the only way to heal” came up. I have been thinking about this life lessons myself several times in my own life, and now I got reminded to share it with you guys.

 

In all it’s simplicity it’s about that you will never heal yourself and move on from something if you do not choose to forgive those who you think have hurt or harmed you in any way.

 

Let me show you an example, if you for example have been dating a guy and find out that he has been dating several others at the same time, then you might feel betrayed and hurt. Over time you will move on, but you will never fully heal yourself until you choose to forgive the guy. This doesn’t mean that you in any way have to go up to the guy and say “I forgive you”. You simply just need to forgive him in your own heart. Know that there could have been several reasons for him doing so, and that it really might not have anything to do with you at all. Choose to look at the things you’ve learned along the way instead. Because of this relation you might have learned how to be more open towards other people, you might also have learned that what you want in a potential partner is someone who is loyal towards you. Realise that you would never have learned these things if you hadn’t had that negative experience, and see it as a blessing. I love the Dumbledore quote (you know, from Harry Potter): “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if only one remembers to turn on the light“.

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To take another example, some blame their parents for having given them a certain upbringing. Choose to look at it this way instead – most parents did the best they could with what they had and with the knowledge they had. There’s really no point in holding on to anger or frustration for how you was raised – instead choose to let go, forgive, and choose your own way now.

 

By holding on to anger, or not wanting to forgive someone, you are only holding yourself back and hurting yourself. All those negative feelings are locked inside you. You might think that you are directing them at someone else, but the only person it is truly hurting – is yourself.

 

Choose to forgive and you can thereby heal yourself.

 

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