In this post I want to remind you of a simple fact, and that is how doing less can give you more ✨
This saying might sound counterintuitive. But it really is true. When you give your attention and full focus to one thing, you will not only accomplish it easier, but you will also do it better, which will give you better results in the long run.
If you work on a project, while you at the same time are replying to emails, cooking food etc. then you do not give that project your full attention & energy.
Your work deserves your full attention. So do yourself the honour of giving yourself time to dive into and focus on one thing at a time.
You will come to see how you get better results, and how the work that you do, will be able to touch even more people, because of the energy you have put into it.
As kids we learn things by our parents and those closest to us, this can be both good and bad. If you have limiting self-beliefs, then reprogramming your mind is a way to turn your confidence around and start believing more in yourself ✨
The majority of our lives we run on autopilot – we do the things we have learned to do over and over again. However these things might not always be in your best interest.
Our subconscious mind runs on autopilot, and the things we have learned to do subconsciously we learned in our early childhood days. By watching and observing our parents and those closest to us. This can be both good and bad. You have learned to walk and talk this way, which is wonderful things!
But you might also have learned self-doubt, negative self-talk, how you handle conflicts etc. this way. If you want to change how you live your life and your habits, you need to dig real deep and find out what beliefs you learned in your early childhood and then start to actively work on changing those daily.
This can fx be if you grew up with a parent who talked negatively about themselves, you might feel like that yourself and have convinced yourself over years and years of this way of talking to yourself that you are not good enough. If you want to change this, start to work with affirmations. See this post for examples on positive affirmations. Start to write things down that you feel good about yourself, tell it to yourself – and do it consistently! These subconscious beliefs take time to change, so you have to keep working on them, otherwise it’s easy to fall right back into old destructive patterns 💫
Questions for you: Which beliefs did you carry with you from childhood? What behaviours are you actively trying to change? Or would like to change? ✨
Learning to see that there is no such thing as failure has been one of the biggest life-changing experience for me.
Whenever you experience something that you think is a ‘failure’, learn to see this thing as a way to figure out what is right and what is not right for you. Of course it’s okay to be sad and down about something not working out the way you had hoped for, but if you can change your way of thinking of it as a failure to a lesson, you have a lot to gain!
Perhaps you have experienced a failed relationship. But don’t view it as a failure and a waste of time. Through that ‘failed’ relationship you learned what it is that you actually want out of a relationship, and what you do not want in one.
“If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost”
Perhaps you have experienced a job that was certainly not right for you. Don’t view it as a waste of time or mistake. If you hadn’t had that job, you wouldn’t know what it is that you do not want, and what it is that you do want, in a job.
Learn to see failures not as failures, but as things guiding you towards what is just right for you. Learn to see failures as good things taking you exactly towards where YOU are meant to be, and life will be way more fun and beautiful in this way!
I want to end this little write with reminding you of Thomas Edison, the guy who eventually invented the light bulb. Edison failed many, many times, but said that: “I haven’t failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work“.
If you want anything in life, the first step to getting it, is knowing what it is that you want. Get clear on what you want in life.
Sounds pretty obvious, right? However, many of us don’t have a clear vision of exactly what it is that we want, so we don’t really know what we are going after, which can end up with us getting something that we don’t actually want.
Perhaps you have heard about ‘the law of attraction’, which is about how ‘like attract like’ and how what you focus on is what you get more of. Have you ever thought about what your main focus is? Is it on the things that you want in your life? Or, is it on all the things that you think are wrong in your life.
“Clarity is power. The more clear you are about what you want the more likely you are to achieve it” – Billy Cox
Sit down with yourself, and get clear on what you want. You don’t have to have all the answers, but get an idea of the life you want to live. What do you want to do? Where do you want to live? Which people do you want to spend your time with? etc. Consider these things.
Once you have a good idea of what it is that you want, then write it down. Make a list. A list of the things you want in life, and don’t limit yourself, dream big. Write it down, make it visual for yourself.
Once you have written it down, you can start to work on one goal at a time. Take a goal, and break it down into smaller more manageable steps. Then make a plan on when to do what, and just get started.
If you are someone with big dreams and are looking for some real good motivation, then this book is definitely for you! Today I have a BIG book recommendation for you: The Magic of Thinking Big.
Wauw. This book was amazing! I felt so uplifted and inspired all the way through reading it, and I highlighted so much in it. “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz is all about how we limit ourselves by our beliefs. We can only achieve what we let ourselves believe is possible. He encourages people to think BIG!
Most importantly of all, he encourages people to ACT on their dreams & visions. Because without action, you will never reach your dreams. He uses this lovely phrase “Action cures fear“. It is such a great phrase, and something I can definitely recognise. Sometimes we work things up in our head, overthink and everything and we never get to do the things we want to do. However, as soon as we start, flow follows and we find that it really isn’t that hard, we just have to take action and begin.
This book contains everything from how to combat limiting beliefs, how to go after your dreams, how to build confidence, how you are what you think and so much more. I will go as far to say, that this is one of the best books I have ever read, I can highly recommend it!
If we want to grow, stretch and reach our dreams, we also need to get grounded. Plant our roots deep in the ground, so we can grow even higher.
“Flying starts from the ground. The more grounded you are, the higher you fly” – J.R. Rim
Do you have big dreams and visions for your future? I do too, but in order to make those dreams a reality and grow high, we also need to ground ourselves and get the foundational work in place.
Fulfil the Basic Needs
If you’ve ever had a psychology class at some point in your life, you might have heard of ‘Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs‘. This theory explains perfectly the concept of getting yourself grounded, in order to reach your own higher potential.
This pyramid starts from the bottom, the first need all human beings needs to get fulfilled physiological needs; air, water, food, shelter, sleep, clothing, sex. If we have not fulfilled these basic needs, we will not begin to start thinking about the next level in the pyramid, because our mind will then only stay focused on fulfilling our very basic human needs.
In our Western society, majority of us people have the two bottom ‘needs’ in place: physiological and safety needs. What we are working on the top 3 layers; love and belonging, esteem and self-actualisation.
So when I say ‘get grounded’, I mean that in order for you to grow, you first need to have these foundations in place. You need to eat food, sleep well, and have a place you feel safe. But what is also important is your relationship towards others, a sense of belonging, and your own self-esteem. A practice to help you with your self-esteem can be the use of positive affirmations.
Remember, that the highest trees, also have the deepest and strongest roots.
Do you have big dreams and visions you want to fulfil? Look at your own life and see where your foundation is not working, and then start working on that. Perhaps you do not sleep enough? Then start working on that. Perhaps your self-esteem is very low? Then start working on that. So, where in your life, can you work on your foundational work? Share it below, or write it down for yourself, and then start working on it.
Having a Growth Mindset can change your life completely. But you have to learn to see things differently, and think differently from what you have been used to, if you want to get this kind of mindset. Invest in yourself, keep learning, exploring and stay open-minded and life will turn into the most interesting adventure you have ever been on!
Fixed Mindset VS. Growth Mindset
A Fixed Mindset sees ourselves as static beings, like we can’t change how things are for us, our character, intelligence or creativity. However, a Growth Mindset thrives on challenge and views failure as new learning opportunities, and new ways of growth. Our entire life is defined by our mindset. Our relationship with success and failure determines our way towards happiness. If you keep seeing a failure as you being a failure and you get sad and miserable over it, this will affect your life. But, if you instead see failure as just another way to have learned something new, and a springboard towards success, your world-view will be entirely different.
How to Gain a Growth Mindset
Keep learning and exploring new things and ways of thinking. Read books, watch documentaries, talk to new people, listen to podcasts, go to new places
See failure not as a failure, but as an opportunity for growth and learning
Focus on the good things in life & the small joys
See life as Yin & Yang, everything is about balance. You need both in your life
Stop telling yourself limiting beliefs, instead go encourage yourself and talk yourself up
Another’s success does not mean that you cannot succeed. Learn to be happy about other people’s successes, and know that there is more than enough to go around for everyone
The book “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill is a bestselling book, and I completely understand why – it is magical!
The book “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill has quickly made it to the top of my favourite books. I highlighted so much of the book while reading it, because there was just so much gold in it. The book is primarily about money and how to accumulate riches, but it is also about so much more than just that. It’s about how to get anything in life.
This book is one of the front-goers for the whole ‘manifestation’, ‘law of attraction’ phenomenon, and it is so inspirering and motivating to read. It’s about how you can achieve anything, if you believe you can.
As usual, I don’t want to say too much about the book, because I think you should have the experience of reading it. But I will say that it is life-changing, and that it can really shift your perspective on life.
Below I’ve shared some of my favourite quotes from the book.
Quotes from the book
“Everything which man creates, begins in the form of a thought impulse. Man can create nothing which he does not first conceive in thought”
“You can not get, if you do not give”
“Riches begin in the form of thought. The amount is limited only by the person in whose mind the thought is put into motion”
“One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat”
“Our brains become magnetised with the dominating thoughts which we hold in our minds, and, by means which no man is familiar, these “magnets” attract to us the forces, the people, the circumstances of life, which harmonise with the nature of our dominating thoughts”
Here are some of the books that have changed my life. There are, of course, many books that have had an impact on my life, but these are definitely some of the books that have completely changed my life perspective for, what I personally think is, the better. I hope this post can give you some new reading inspiration, and remember that if you choose to always stay open and to keep learning and growing – then wonderful things can happen!
The Magic (aka The Secret)
The Magic by Rhonda Byrne, was a book I discovered back in 2012 in England. It was a time in my life where I had lots of self doubt, and probably way to much doubts about myself and what I should do with my life. Then I came into a bookstore and this magical book just caught my attention. I remember first thinking “I want that!” and then my thoughts convinced me that “no, that is some sort of self-help book, you shouldn’t read that, that’s just stupid“, but after having walked around in the book store for a while I finally decided to buy it. I started reading it as soon as I got back to the hotel, and I was completely in love with it.
This book taught me about Gratitude, the Law of Attraction, Manifestation, and changing your life perspective to focus on the positive things in life. It’s a very practical book, because it has small exercises that you should do each day, and I recommend to completely follow it and do all the exercises. It changed my life, and I’m forever grateful for having discovered this book at the right time in my life.
Money & The Law of Attraction
Money & The Law of Attraction by Esther & Jerry Hicks. I read this book recently, and it’s all about Manifestation & The Law of Attraction. It might be titled ‘money’, but this book is about so much more than just money. It’s about how to focus on the things that you WANT in life, and learning to attract these things into your life. It’s really good, and I probably wrote down half the book in my notebook while reading it, because there was just so much gold in it. If you haven’t heard about Law of Attraction and Manifestation before, then I would recommend reading ‘The Magic‘ first as an introduction to the subject, and then read this book later in your life, when you feel ready to dive deeper into the topic.
The Four Agreements
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is a tiny little book with SO much gold in it. These life advices are some that I wish would be taught to everybody in school, because wauw, these are beautiful. I don’t want to say too much about it, because I think you should experience reading it for yourself. But it is a wonderful little book, that I think everybody should read.
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra is another little book which everybody on this Planet should read. It’s also about manifestation, and the flow of life. How in order to receive certain things in life, we must also be willing to give these things ourselves in order to keep the flow of life going. Just like with ‘The Four Agreements’, this is also a beautiful little book, so I don’t want to say too much about it, except for: read it, it’s worth it, it’s another one of those books that could be completely life changing for you.
Big Magic – Creative Living Beyond Fear
Big Magic by Elisabeth Gilbert is a book for creatives. Creatives of all kinds, whether you are a writer, painter, singer, and not only for ‘professional creatives’, but also for people who just practice being creative at home. It’s really inspirering, and gives you such a motivational spark to embrace curiosity and just start creating every time you feel that creative flow coming.
It’s also about overcoming the fear we might have that stop us from creating, which is such a shame, because as she mentions in the book, creating shouldn’t just be for coming up with a final result which we can ‘give’ to others or sell, creating should be something we do for the sake of the experience of creating something, because that is such a wonderful thing.
Think & Grow Rich
Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill is probably one of the foregoers to ‘The Magic’ and ‘Money & The Law of Attraction’, because he spend 25 years of his life learning about what had made successful people successful. This book might be titled ‘think & grow rich’, but this book is about way more than just the financial aspect, it’s about learning a whole new way of thinking which can completely change your life. It’s about finding your purpose, creating plans, staying persistent and believing in it. Again, I don’t want to say too much, because I truly believe that this book should be experienced by reading. But I will say that it’s an amazing book! I have highlighted tons of sentences in the book, I recommended by dad to get it as well, and I also just bought 2 copies for 2 of my friends. This is definitely a game changer!
The 5 Love Languages
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a must-read for everybody. Not just for people wanting to improve their romantic relationship, but for everybody. This book can enhance your understanding of other people, and this can improve all your relationships. It’s about how there are 5 ‘love languages’ and that we all have a primary love language – meaning, a way that we receive and give love. But our partner might have another love language, and then miscommunication can arise as we ‘show and give’ our love in different ways and then the love might not be received by the other person, as this is not their primary love language. So if we can learn our closest ones love languages, then we can learn to ‘give’ love to them in a way that they can receive, which will improve our relationships.
These were the books that have been completely life-changing for me and my life. I would love to know which books have been life changing for your life?
Everything you bring into your life has energy and that will affect you and your life. Therefore, it is so important to become aware about what we surround ourselves with – who do we spend our time with? What job do we have? What food do we eat? I will share some of the ways in which what you bring into your life can affect you, and I hope this will make you see how much of an affect it can have upon your life – and how you can change it, if you want to live a different life from what you are currently living.
The food you eat can either be fresh and whole, like lots of vegetables, nuts, seeds, fruits, which contributes to fuel your body, your skin and your energy level. But, it can also be sugary, highly processed food with no nutritional value which actually does the opposite and drains you for energy. Become aware of what you eat. Of course, everything in life is about balance, and you should definitely treat yourself if you want a cake once in a while, but look at what you eat for the majority of the day. If you feel sluggish and tired all the time, try eating more vegetables and drink more water, and see what a difference that does to your body.
We spend most of our lives on our jobs, so just think about if you go to your job almost every single day with the thought “oh no… not another day“, then you fill yourself up with negative energy for most of the week.
I know that it might not always be possible to find a job that you love right away, so while you are on the hunt for a job that will excite you, try to use some gratitude and positive thoughts for the job you DO have at the moment. Because we can only get more, by being grateful for what we already have. Be grateful for the income you are getting, for your kind colleagues, etc. Find small things to be grateful for, and your days will become a lot better.
Relationships are probably one of THE MOST important areas to look at in terms of what energy you bring into your life. Because if you have relationships (not only romantic ones, just as well friendships and family relations) where you spend the majority of your time together fighting, spending time with people who are always negative, criticising etc. then this will drain your energy. Figure out if you want this in your life, or start to search for other friendships/relationships.
Of course we all have downtimes and I’m not saying just ‘cut off’ someone because they have a bad day, or are going through a rough time, but I think we all know the difference between people who are dealing with something for a while, and people who are negative all the time.
Have you ever heard the saying: “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with“? Look at who you are spending most of your time with. Are they people who you love, who inspire you, uplift you, who you genuinely enjoy spending time with?
Music is another way to bring energy into your life. Whenever you listen to music, do you then listen to sad songs all the time? Or, do you listen to uplifting, positive soundtracks? This is such an easy switch to make to instantly lift your mood.
Fx does Spotify have several different playlists for specific moods, try to choose a more uplifting and positive one in your daily life and see what a difference this makes to your mood.
Life is simply too short to surround yourself with things that doesn’t make you happy. Seriously, do you sit at home and just feel like “eh..” over your room, apartment or house? There is really no need to. Start clearing up and throw out all of the things that doesn’t make you happy (for this little project I can recommend Marie Kondo’s book ‘The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up“). Hereafter, everytime you bring something new into your life really think about if this is something that makes you happy and excited. Create a home and a create a feeling that inspires you and which makes you feel happy and at home.
Mindset, another huge one, which is so important. If you have been following me for a while either here or on my Instagram, you know that I truly believe that if you“change your mind you can change your life“, and that you create your own reality.
The thoughts you think, and the feelings you have are of such importance to the life you are living. No matter what happens to you, know that it is your choice how you want to respond to that situation. It’s all up to you!
If you want to start working on changing your mindset, I recommend starting with working on:
I hope this blogpost can help you see that there are SO many ways in which we bring energies into our lives, and that we can truly change our life by choosing what we led into our lives, whether that be people we spend time with, music we listen to, food we eat or the thoughts we think.