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Self-development

WHAT LIMITING BELIEFS ARE HOLDING YOU BACK?

What limiting beliefs are holding you back from reaching your full potential? Let’s talk about all the things you tell yourself day in and day out, because those thoughts are more powerful than you might think ✨

Have you ever paid attention, to what you say to yourself? I don’t mean what you say out verbally to yourself, but to all the things you tell yourself during the day? What thoughts run through your head when you pass a mirror? What thoughts come up when you speak to someone else? What thoughts do you tell yourself about whether or not you can do something?

For a lot of people, these thoughts are not very positive and encouraging. actually, they can be quite the opposite, they can be harmful, negative and limiting.

And as I’ve mentioned so many times in here – what you focus on grows. Also what you might not have been consciously focusing on, like the things you tell yourself daily in your head.

Become Aware of Your Thoughts

The first step to changing this, is to become aware of your thoughts. Every time you are about to or you have just thought a negative, limiting thought about yourself – stop yourself, and try to “recreate” the thought to a positive and more encouraging one.

At first, you might not believe yourself. But the important thing is to become aware. Because all kind of change, first starts with awareness.

When you have become aware of what kind of things you tell yourself, identify those thoughts. Why do you even say or think these things?

Perhaps you’ve been told for years in school that you are a shy girl who does not speak up. Over the years you’ve taken this identity to you by keep reinforcing those beliefs, which have probably held you back from many things in life – fx feeling comfortable with doing presentations, speaking up etc.

But is there actually any true to this ‘identity’? You can choose to change it, but it does take time. Because something you’ve been identifying yourself as for years, can’t just be changed from one day to the next.

But by becoming aware, and starting to tell yourself a new story and try new things that challenge your prior belief – and keep doing this over and over again, you can change your identity and thereby your reality and your own perception of yourself ✨

Read also: Positive Affirmations


Self-development

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FOR OTHERS, IT IS FOR YOURSELF

Today I want to talk about choosing to forgive. Forgiveness is not for others, it is for yourself 🙏✨

Forgiving others. We often talk about certain things as being something we can’t forgive. And if people have done you wrong in any kind of way they perhaps they do not deserve your forgiveness. But what I wanted to talk about today is why you need to forgive others, in your own mind, for your own sake.

If you keep holding onto anger, resentment, jealousy about what someone else did to you – then who does that harm? Only yourself. I know the feeling, even though you can feel like your negative vibes are somehow punishing someone else, in reality, you are only hurting yourself even more – and you deserve better than that.

I wanted to address this topic, because not only is it damaging for your mental health to carry anger, jealousy etc. But, if we look at the body from a holistic point of view (which I’m all about), then according to Traditional Chinese Medicine, emotions and physical health are intimately connected. Sadness, nervous tension and anger, worry, fear and overwork are each associated with a particular organ in the body.

Fx irritability and anger can affect the liver and result in menstrual pain, headache, redness of the face and eyes, dizziness and dry mouth.
So not only are you hurting yourself mentally by holding onto things, but you are also creating dis-ease in your own body and doing physical harm to yourself.

Again, forgiving others does not necessarily make what someone did to you okay, but forgiving others can be a way to set yourself free.

The only person you hurt by holding onto things, is yourself. I’ll recommend to write a letter (just for yourself), and truly express your feelings and then choose to forgive and let it go 🙏✨

Self-development

YEAR & QUARTERLY GOALS (PRINTABLE PDF FILES)

Achieve your goals with this method! Here you get some Year & Quarterly Goals in printable PDF files, to help you stay on track with your goals all year round! 🙌✨

I did this exercise last year, and it helped me stay on track with my goals throughout the year, and I accomplished almost all the goals I set on my list for goals I wanted to achieve in 2019. I have just done the exact same exercise again but for 2020, and I can’t wait to stay on track again this year with actively pursuing and working towards reaching my goals.

How do you do it?


Year Goals

Find Goals file here


Print 1 copy of the ‘Goals’ file:
On this page you write down all the goals you want to achieve this year. Remember, it’s okay to have many dreams, but also be realistic about what you can achieve within 1 year.

Find Quarterly Goals file here


Print 4 copies of the ‘Quarterly Goals’ file:
On these pages, you write “1st quarter” (1. January – 31. March) / “2nd Quarter (1. April – 30. June) / “3rd Quarter (1. July – 30. September) / “4th Quarter (1. October – 31. December)

Now you look at your Goals for the entire year, and then you begin with the first ones you want to accomplish, and write these under the ‘important to achieve’ section.

After you have done this, you can break down the goal even further in the section below. Write down the actual steps you need to take to accomplish this goal.

Write down all 4 quarters, so it covers all your goals for the year.

Now if you have a stick board over your desk, or somewhere where you’ll look at it often, then put your first quarterly goal paper up here. Now for the first quarter of this year, only focus on these goals. Don’t think too much about all your goals for the year, but focus only on the first ones.

Let’s take an example on how to do it:
One of my Goals for this year is to become a certified Holistic Health Coach, so this is what I have written on my Goals for the year.

On my Quarterly goals I have then written down what I need to do in order to make that come true, which involves:
– Accomplishing X amount of Health Histories
– Take my weekly classes
– Accomplish the tests during the year
– Participate in Coaching Circles

So what do you say? Do you want to actively work towards your goals and dreams this year? 🙌✨

“A Goal is a Dream with a deadline”

I would recommend reading this post first, and doing the reflection questions in there, and then you can fill out these goals documents afterwards.

Inspiration Self-development

YOU CANNOT CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE, THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN CHANGE IS YOURSELF

We cannot change other people. The only person you can change is yourself. But by showing others that you can change, you show them the opportunities they have at hand as well 🌱✨

It can often feel frustrating when you see your dear ones doing things that doesn’t do them any good, and you want to help them change their habits so they can feel better. It could be a parent smoking, seeing someone in deep debt, or seeing someone eating lots of junk and not taking care of their health. Often we want to help our dear ones to make them feel better, but know this – you cannot help a person who does not want to be helped. So we cannot change other people, as frustrating as that is. But what we can do, is showing others the possibilities they have at hand, by doing the work ourselves.

And funnily enough, very often, the things we see in others, are mirrors of things we have in ourselves. So do the work. Focus on yourself. Once people see you have done something, this will inspire them way more, than you telling them to try this and that or stop doing something.

Be patient. You might not change someones life from one day to the next, just by showing them what’s possible. But never underestimate the power of planting a seed 🌱✨

“If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change” – Michael Jackson

Inspiration Self-development

WHAT YOU WATER WILL GROW

If you want something in your life, know that what you water will grow. It might not come from one day to the next, but consistent, continuous action will make the plant grow 🌱✨

The seed you water and takes care of, is the seed that will grow into a plant. Water the things you want to see grow in your life. Do you want more things to be grateful for? Start by looking at the things you already have in your life, and be grateful for that. If you want to get better at anything specific – give it your attention and do the work.

The concept of what you water will grow also goes the opposite way. If you keep on complaining about things, you will continue to find things to complain about and you’ll get stuck in a rut.

Be clear with yourself about what you want and what you don’t want in your life. Once you know this, you can start to give attention and water the things you want to see grow and flourish 🌱✨

Question for you: So what are you going to water this year? Love, happiness, a specific project? Go give it all your attention and eventually you will watch it grow ✨

Holistic & Spiritual living Inspiration

GET READY FOR 2020

Do you want to get ready for 2020? Grab your journal and a blanket, light a candle and make yourself a warm cup of tea and get ready to do some reflections for the past year, and visualise your 2020 🙌✨

2020 is approaching soon, and I can feel it’s going to be a BIG year! Last year I began the year with reflecting on the past year, sat goals for the upcoming year and sat some minor goals for each quarter in the year to help me reach my goals.

I’ve reached almost ALL of my goals I sat for myself for 2019. So I’m going to do the exact same thing this year! This year I’ve started doing accountability coaching together with my dad, where we set goals in different areas of our lives and create small tasks for ourselves to do in order to accomplish our goals. Then we meet up, write to each other and keep each others accountable and help each other reach our goals. As we are already doing this, we decided to sit down together this year and do this little reflection exercise and set goals for 2020, so we can help each other reach those goals.

In order to reach what you want – you need to evaluate your current life. What do you like about where you are at? What don’t you like? Reflect back on the past year, as well as visualise your future – 1 year from now, 5 years from now. Where do you want to be? 

Remember, once you have set your bigger goals for 2020, then it’s important to break them down into smaller actionable steps. You can write “finish this project” on your bigger goal list for the year, but to make it more manageable and easy to get started on, you need to break it down into smaller steps that you can easily start on. Fx if your goal for 2020 is to write a book, then your smaller steps could be:
– brainstorm content for the book
– do research for XYZ
– write paragraph 1 in chapter 1
– write paragraph 2 in chapter 1
– read through and edit
By breaking your big goal down into smaller steps, it feels much easier to begin the projects.

Here are some reflection questions to prepare you for 2020

– What were the best things about this year?

– What has life taught your this year?

– What don’t you want to take with you into 2020?

– What do you want to take with you into 2020?

– Where do you see yourself in 1 year?

– Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

– What do you want to accomplish in 2020?

– What will it take for you to reach those goals? What do you have to do to get there?

Question for you: Are you ready for 2020? What are some of your goals? I would love to know! Let’s root on each other, support each other and help and encourage each other to reach our dreams! 🙌✨

Inspiration

DECLUTTER YOUR SPACE & LIFE

Sometimes we tend to get so much stuff build up, both physical stuff, but also mental stuff, that it can all become too overwhelming or we can feel stuck or stagnant where we are. Therefore, I want to encourage you to declutter your space & life ✨

Don’t we all know the feeling of having such a messy house, that you don’t feel like getting anything done? Or perhaps your kitchen is such a mess that you don’t feel like cooking? Or your desktop is so cluttered and full, that you can’t seem to start the projects you want to be working on? Funny thing is, the saying goes “you teach what you most need to learn yourself”, and here I am in an absolute mess of an apartment & having a completely filled and cluttered desktop. It all needs a good round of decluttering, so that there is space for new things, feelings & inspiration!

“Make space for what matters”

Before we go into the new decade – 2020 – I want to declutter my home, my desktop and my mind. I want to get rid of all the old stuff that doesn’t serve me any longer, and create more light and space for new things to flourish. Because nothing new can comes in, if you try to hold on to lots of old stuff. Let it go, and welcome new opportunities into your life

What about you – does your life need a good decluttering before entering 2020? Remember, as always, not to look at things like you need to get everything done at once, begin in one place. Perhaps start with decluttering and cleaning your kitchen. Then move on to the next. But take one step at a time ✨

Inspiration Self-development

PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

If you wait until you’re ready, you’ll never do anything. It’s all about progress not perfection ✨ So start that project, do that workshop, release that song. Send it out into this world.

That one thing you’ve always been wanting to do, but haven’t done yet because you are afraid that it’s not perfect – put it out into the world! If you keep on waiting and waiting and never get the things out, you’ll never be able to reach those dreams, or improve the thing. The first things you put out in the world – whether that be a workshop, a book, a movie, a song, will probably never be ‘perfect’. But because of that first piece you put out, you’re now able to learn from that first thing and do it even better the next time, and the next. But if you never put it out, you’ll never improve and you’ll end up disappointing yourself for never having tried.

It’s all about progress, not perfection. See everything you do as a learning opportunity. The first time a child walks, it will fall down so many times. But it does not give up. It keeps trying and trying, until it eventually one day walks.

But so many people nowadays give up so easily, if they feel like they are ‘failing’. But there is no such thing as failure, there is only learning that is a spring board for you to become even better.

“If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of your lives”
– Lemony Snicket

Take this as a sign to start that project. Send it out into the world. Begin it, and don’t worry about it being perfect. Rather worry about it never reaching the world. Make it, send it out, learn from it and see what amazing things will come your way once you start to send out your creations ✨

Happiness Inspiration

MAKE A LIST OF THINGS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR MOOD

If you have a bad day, or just feel like you want to change your mood, then I will recommend to make a list of things that can change your mood ✨🙌

I’m currently reading Tony Robbins book “Awaken the Giant Within”, and I just the part where he suggests that you make a list of all the things that can change your mood instantly. This was such a lovely idea, so I had to share it.

It’s really all about making a list of things that you can do that can change your mood instantly. If you are having a bad day, and just not feeling good (by all means, we all have those days, and if you’re sad, feel those feels, but sometimes just a little change in the mood can make everything better), you can take out your just and do one or more of the things on the list, and change your mood and come into a much better place.

I made my own list of things that can change my mood, here they are:
1. Meditate
2. Listen to high vibe music
3. Dance around
4. Move my body
5. Go for a walk in nature
6. Kiss my man
7. Smile
8. Create content / write / take photos
9. Give myself a facial massage
10. Read
11. Learn new, inspiring things
12. Having inspiring talks with my close ones
13. Uplift other people
14. Give to others
15. Make my family happy
16. Tidy up my space / decluttering
17. Eat healthy, nourishing food
18. Dream BIG & visualise
19. Drinking warm tea
20. Singing

Project for you: Grab your favourite notebook, make yourself a warm cup of tea and sit with yourself and be very honest about what can change your mood and put you in a better place. Write it down, save the list and take it out whenever you feel the need ✨🙌

Self-development

USE ACTION TO CURE FEAR

Do you have big dreams and goals, that at times seems so big that you become completely paralysed about what to do? Use action to cure fear! ✨

Not that long ago I read two books that have motivated me even more to start taking more action towards my dreams. One was “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz and the other was “Eat that Frog” by Brian Tracy. Both books have reminded me of the magic of taking action!

We often tend to overthink, worry and build up things in our heads, and even though it might be things we want to do, or we just tell ourselves that they are too difficult, we build them up and end up procrastinating out of fear of doing the thing.

You probably already know the feeling. You have a big dream, but it might be so big that you get completely paralysed as to what to do to even achieve that big dream, that you end up doing nothing at all.

Here comes the lesson: “Action cures fear“, as David Schwartz says in his book. Take action, and the fear will go away. And, as I’ve talked about a thousand times before – taking action towards big dreams can be completely overwhelming, but if you break down your big goal into smaller, more actionable steps, and then just start taking one step, and then the next and then the next – eventually you will get there!

If you’re reading this post, take this as a sign to begin to TAKE ACTION on your dreams and goals! Write down the big dream, and write down all the little things you can start doing that will help you get closer towards that goal ✨