Do you know the feeling of setting big goals and dreams, but keep letting yourself down because you can’t stick to them? The key here is that small wins builds more self-confidence! 💕✨
“If you want to be responsible, keep your promises to others. If you want to be successful, keep your promises to yourself” – Marie Forleo
If you are like me, you are extremely good at keeping all your promises to others. You don’t like to disappoint people, so you always keep your promises to others – also if sometimes means not keeping the promises you’ve made to yourself.
Does that sound familiar?
But I have something important to tell you, of course we should stick to things we promise others – but it is just as important to stick to the things you promise yourself!
If you keep saying to yourself that “from now on I’m gonna do….” or “every day I’ll do …” – and then you keep NOT doing it, then guess what? You’re going to disappoint yourself more and more. You’ll keep letting yourself down. This will tear down your belief and trust in yourself, and your love for yourself.
And I know it can be the hardest thing sometimes to stick to the promises you’ve made with yourself, because then life comes around and you have too many things going on and then it’s easier to just stick to the obligations you have made to others, and then “skip” those you’ve made with yourself.
But the BEST thing you can do for yourself is to keep those promises you make to yourself! This will build your own trust and belief in yourself, it will boost your self-confidence and your self-love!
How do you do that successfully?
You start small. Like, really small. And I know this is so hard, because you’re probably really ambitious and have big dreams (I feel you, I’m the exact same – and I’m ALL about dreaming big and going after the big things). But if you fx want to implement a new habit, then instead of going from fx never practicing yoga, to saying “I want to practice yoga every day for 30 minutes!”, the goal is beautiful – but be realistic and start small and build yourself more and more up.
Start with saying that you want to fx practice yoga every morning for 5 minutes, or once a week for 30 minutes. Stick to this smaller habit for a while, and make it a successful experience for yourself
In that way you’ll feel empowered every time you accomplish that “smaller win”, and perhaps you’ll even start doing a longer practice now that you’re already at it – that’s just a win-win!
But my best advice would be to start small, and then build it up – and feel the self-love and your self-confidence boost along the way as you keep your promises to yourself! 💕✨
This book is filled with so many amazing life advices, or “laws” of life. I will highly recommend reading “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” if you into self-development and if you have a growth mindset ✨
“The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” is written by John C. Maxwell who is a bestselling author, coach and speaker. He is known as America’s #1 leadership authority and has trained millions of leaders from all over the world.
This book is filled with all the wisdom he has gained through his life, and the “laws of life” that he has come to explore.
The book is divided up into 15 chapters – where he writes about each “law” in each chapter.
There is so much gold in this book, and so much valuable knowledge and tips for life. I can highly recommend this book for everyone who is into personal development and growing as a person.
“Life goals are reached by setting annual goals. Annual goals are reached by reaching daily goals. Daily goals are reached by doing things which may be uncomfortable at first but eventually become habits. Habits are powerful things. Habits turn actions into attitudes, and attitudes into lifestyles”
“You can visualise tomorrow using it as motivation to grow, but if you want to actually grow, your focus needs to be on today”
“If you want to grow, don’t try to win big. Try to win small”
“As we think in our hearts, so we become”
“Growth doesn’t come from staying in your comfort zone”
If you haven’t already noticed, I could have written waaaay more quotes for you, but I’ll try to keep it short – but I pretty much highlighted the majority of the book, because I was just so inspired when reading it!
I would LOVE to know if you have read any good books lately? Comment here, or write to me on Instagram! 💕
Today I want to talk about the Power of Beliefs in connection to the two terms ‘placebo’ and ‘nocebo’. Perhaps you’ve heard about the concept placebo before? Perhaps you haven’t, I hadn’t until a friend mentioned it a few years ago, and then when I started to dive further into it, I was amazed – once again – of the power of the mind! 🧠✨
Placebo is when people’s belief that they will get better can produce a cure. The concept of placebo is used in medical research to figure out whether a drug is working. Then one group of people get the actual drug, and another group of people believe the they get the drug, but they actually just get a ‘sugar pill’, something that doesn’t do anything- Many trials however have now showed that the people who didn’t get the drug, but believed that they did – actually got better, just because of their own belief in it.
This is highly fascinating, as it shows the power of believing in something. Perhaps you’ve seen this concept demonstrated in the Harry Potter movies – in one of the movies, Harry and Ron is going to play a Quiditch game and Ron is very nervous, so Harry pretends that he pours ‘liquid luck’ (a liquid meant to give luck to the one who drinks it) into Ron’s cup. Ron ‘accidentally’ finds out and thereby believes that he’s now got some extra luck and he does absolutely brilliant at the Quiditch game. Hermione gets mad at Harry for cheating, until she finds out that he didn’t put it into Ron’s drink – Ron only believed that he did – placebo (Ps, Sorry for the Harry Potter reference, but I just love those books/movies) – and although this might be a fiction movie, the concept of placebo is a very real one.
But there is also the opposite concept of placebo, which is called nocebo.
Nocebo is when people can make themselves sick through their beliefs. This concept is especially important for medical advisors to be aware of – because the way they deliver the diagnosis to patients and tell about their ‘future’ can really make a huge difference in whether the patients believe that they might be able to recover, or not.
The concepts of Placebo and Nocebo truly shows how powerful our thoughts – and more importantly – our beliefs are. So if we can learn to actively use this knowledge to our own advantage, we have an even bigger impact on our health than we might have first thought we did 🧠✨
If you are into Law of Attraction, Quantum Physics and how your thoughts and your vibration creates your reality – then this is definitely a book for you! Here is a book recommendation of “Mind to Matter” by Dawson Church
As Jack Canfield says it on the front-cover “As The Secret meets the scientist in Dawson’s work, the boundaries of what you’ve believed possible will be stretched far beyond your existing picture of reality” – and I couldn’t agree more with this.
I’ve lived by ‘the law of attraction’ / ‘the law of vibration’ for many years, but mainly out of belief – but this book takes it to the next level and really shows the scientific behinds thoughts/vibration changing physical reality – and it’s so fascinating! In simple terms the book is about how your brain creates your material reality.
I highlighted so much in this book and kept telling my boyfriend or dad, or whoever were around “you have to hear this!”.
So if you’ve heard about all the spiritual talk about law of attraction etc. but haven’t really been convinced about it, then this book will give you lots of science to make it more understandable and real.
Find the book here: Mind to Matter – Dawson Church *Affiliate link. If you buy through this link, this means that I get a small percentage of the sale)
Quotes from the book
“Mind is able to change matter at the level of the very small – atoms and molecules. Scaling up, it can change matter at the level of cells, organs, and bodies. Getting bigger still, it can change social groups and even whole countries”
“This is the everyday superpower that you possess: second by second, you are changing your brain by the way you use your mind. The consciousness of your mind is becoming the cells of the matter of your brain”
“Each cell of your body has its own unique electromagnetic field”
“Change the field and you change the matter”
“Emotions are contagious in the same way infectious diseases are contagious”
“You are shaping the quality of cells your body produces with material inputs such as the food you eat and the water you drink”
Have you read any interesting books lately? As always, I would love to hear about it! And if you’ve already read this book, then let me know, what are your thoughts about it?
We all have so much information available to us today, so the problem isn’t lack of information, it’s lack of action 🌿✨
We all have so much information available to us today, and you can Google most things – but knowing doesn’t change your life. Taking action and really implementing the things you learn is what will change your life.
Knowing doesn’t change your life. Taking action and really implementing the things you learn is what will change your life
Most of us know what to do if we want to become healthier, or if we want to get better grades, or if we want to reach a certain fitness goal etc. And if we don’t know it, it’s so easy to gain that kind of information today just by googling, or searching for it on youtube and within few seconds you can get 10 articles or a 20-minute-full-length video explaining you all you need to do to reach XYZ.
Your problem isn’t lack of information – it’s lack of action.
This is a harsh truth to face, because ‘lack of information’ means that you do not have the knowledge to know what you need to do in order to change your current situation. Whereas ‘lack of action’ means that you have not stepped fully into taking ownership over your own situation and taken the necessary action-steps to change it.
But changing your everyday actions can be hard, because we are a very habitual species. What we do on a daily basis is what we’ve learned when we grew up and changing your small autopilot actions can be very difficult.
This is what I’m so passionate about! Finding ways to change and improve your life. Finding small habits you can implement and really make part of your everyday life that will change your life in the long-run.
This is why I’m studying to become a Holistic Health Coach, so that I can help YOU turn your life around by changing your existing habits and implementing new, more empowering ones. I’m now over halfway in my coaching practice and can start to work 1:1 with clients. Working with a coach can help give you simple, effective strategies, as well as give you support and keep you accountable to yourself.
I’ve just announced a competition on my Instagram, where I’ll pick 2 winners who will win a 6-month Holistic Health Transformation Program with me! So if you want the change to win this, then go to my Instagram and participate before May 8, 10.00 AM (CEST)! 🌿✨
Lina and I connected on Instagram as we turned out to have the exact same passions. Lina is a Certified Mindset Coach and EFT practitioner, and she helps people ditch their fears and shine their light. Lina is from Lithuania, but I was lucky enough to meet up with her when she visited Denmark a couple of months ago, and I’m so inspired by her, and I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration from her as well in this interview. Please welcome, Lina.
Dear Lina, will you tell us a little bit about yourself? Who you are and what you do?
Of course! I’m Lina Skukauskė, a mindset coach and EFT practitioner helping women live more conscious and authentic lives. I’m really passionate about how our beliefs and emotions affect our reality and through deep inner work, I help my clients to ditch their fears and shine their light.
Though I work with people in a few different formats- online 1:1 sessions, Women’s Circles, and workshops my goal is always to create a safe space for connection, healing and deep exploration of how we can live the most joyous and fulfilling lives. Lives where we listen not to the outside norms, but first of all to our heart and soul.
In personal life, I’m a woman who can’t live without creativity, whether that’s drawing mandalas, mixing up healthy plant-based meals, writing or taking photos (I worked as a professional photographer for 7 years and still really love photography). Spontaneous intuitive dance sessions, time with friends discussing all kinds of mind-opening topics (or simply laughing and goofing around) and being in nature make me really happy.
Can you tell what EFT is?
I sometimes jokingly say it’s magic! EFT (which stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a combination of Western psychology and stimulation of certain acupressure points from Chinese medicine and it’s used to shift negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. This technique can be used in a few different ways.
On the most basic level, it’s a quick and effective self-help tool to release negative emotions and stress. Though what fascinates me as a practitioner is a deeper level of EFT which allows you to do deep inner work to heal past traumas. And I don’t necessarily mean big traumas (though EFT is great and scientifically researched for serious issues like, for example, PTSD). With my clients I love working on smaller traumas- we all have negative experiences that affected how we perceive ourselves and during which we made certain subconscious beliefs about ourselves and the world around us. Negative childhood experiences, break-ups, being fired from a job, etc. – all of these leave negative consequences and diminish our confidence, inner peace, and self-love.
Our subconscious beliefs are thoughts that we often consciously know are not logical but we feel them to be true, things like “I’m unloveable”, “I’m stupid”. Through using EFT and rewriting our subconscious programming- the real cause of our “blocks” in life- we can change how we think, feel and act.
“Our subconscious beliefs are thoughts that we often consciously know are not logical, but we feel them to be true, things like “I’m unloveable”, “I’m stupid”
When did you first learn about EFT yourself?
Hm, I think the first time was in 2013. I saw Marie Forleo’s ‘Marie TV’ episode about EFT and thought that it’s interesting but I didn’t try it practically then.
The same year I was in one spiritual retreat where one of the things we explored for a bit was EFT. The lady who led the retreat asked for volunteers and I suggested myself. I experienced something that is not the norm but sometimes happens in EFT- “one-minute wonder”. I did some basic EFT about a phobia I had for about 10 minutes and never experienced it again. This, as I said, is not the normal thing in EFT but it does happen sometimes and it obviously got me thinking- how I could I feel one way for my whole life and suddenly feel like the problem doesn’t exist anymore?
I still didn’t get into a habit of using EFT, but then when I had it for the second time it really helped me- I used it to minimize my fear in a speleology trip (I’m not an extreme sports person, it’s a long story how I got into this trip!). It basically saved my trip and allowed me to experience awesome things I otherwise would have been too afraid to even try and since then I started using it on many other issues and later on went to study and got certified in it.
Which experiences in your life have had a big impact on your own self-development?
There were many- I think the starting point for me was when I became a vegetarian- it then started many other changes in my life- I quit using alcohol, changed my lifestyle and this led to a more conscious living where I started to explore how to create what I desire instead of feeling a victim of life’s circumstances. That eventually led to yoga and other practices and exploring spirituality and manifestation.
Some key things that definitely had a big impact on my own personal-development were traveling and living abroad- being immersed in other cultures allows you to see the world and yourself very differently, it’s both challenging and very rewarding.
Starting my own business- first unsuccessful, then two successful ones- definitely huge, too! I’d say starting a business is a massive learning curve and a constant personal growth journey that kind of never ends.
Trusting my intuition and diving deep to follow my passion and study personal development was really life-changing, too and I’m still on this journey, just the subjects that I’m studying are changing. After studying to become an EFT practitioner and a life coach I spent a year during which I was really focused on doing deep inner work to grow and transform myself, working with other EFT practitioners and coaches. I still remember this year as one of the best years in my life- definitely had its challenging moments but also so many joyful and freeing experiences!
And I wouldn’t be completely honest if I wouldn’t mention my divorce – last year was kind of a test of who I am and whether my practices really work… It’s easy to be positive and do the “right things” when you’re feeling well, but when you’re going through a difficult time it gives you a chance to meet yourself in a completely different way- who are you then?
I’m glad that after that experience I came out stronger, happier, and still kind instead of resentful. And definitely believing in my “toolkit” much more because I used all of the practices I know to get through that rough time 🙂 And since the divorce, I dove deep into studying everything about relationships and masculine and feminine energies and this, plus now being in a new relationship, is another wonderful chapter of personal development 🙂
Which books have changed your life?
I love reading and there are many books that were impactful! But there are few that I went back to again and again: “Women who run with the wolves” by Clarissa Pinkola Estés, “Awaken the giant within” by Tony Robbins, “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron, “Light is the new black” by Rebecca Campbell. And Abraham-Hicks books!
What do you feel the world needs more of?
Understanding that they’re not only this physical body. Self-awareness. Kindness- to the planet, animals, and each other.
Do you have some daily rituals that you do every single day?
Each day (with very rare exceptions) I start my day with something I call morning rituals. What I do each day during those early hours is different and depends on my mood and where I am in my feminine cycle.
Some things that I choose from are: gratitude, doing readings with oracle cards to connect with Higher guidance, prayer, intuitive dance, journaling, reading through my big vision that I want to manifest, yoga or running, meditating, breathwork, EFT, or sometimes creativity- I LOVE how much inspiration is in those early hours when most people are still sleeping so sometimes I use this time to paint, draw or write.
I’m a huge believer in life-long learning so I also try to incorporate at least a bit of learning into my day- whether that’s studying material from some of the online courses I’m doing, reading or listening to a podcast or an audiobook.
Which 3 people have inspired you most in your life?
Such a hard question! Probably Marie Forleo, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Rebecca Campbell, though there are so many inspiring people!
If people want to learn more about you or support you in any kind of way, where can they do this?
Do you know the feeling of having lots of new habits that you want to implement into your life? But do you also know the feeling of not following through, and thereby you end up keep disappointing yourself and feeling more discouraged by not being able to establish these new habits? Then this blogpost is for you. Here we’re going to talk about how to establish new habits successfully 🙌✨
I bet you know the feeling of wanting to establish lots of new habits, but just not being able to follow through. I know I’ve done this so many times in the past. I’ve set lots of goals for myself, but hadn’t been able to follow through and thereby I kept disappointing myself more and more.
However, over the past 1,5 year I’ve really found the golden way to set goals and habits and being able to stick to them and fulfill them – which have not only made me much more happy, but also boosted my own self-confidence and trust in myself. And I want to share those tips with you, so that you can feel the same way!
Identify Your Goal or New Habit First of all, you need to make it clear to yourself what it is you want to achieve, or what habit you want to incorporate into your life. Do you want to write a book? Do you want to make yoga a regular exercise practice in your life?
Find out what it is that you want – and also, be very honest with yourself. Do YOU actually want it? Or is this goal or habit something society has conditioned you into thinking that you want. Tune into yourself and feel what it is that you really want.
Now Take Your Goal and Break it Down Break your goal, or habit, into small bite-size pieces, so that it becomes very easy to take action on these pieces – rather than the whole pie. You might want to write a book, but if you have “write the book” written on your to-do list then you’ll too easily get paralysed over the big task that is, and you won’t really know where to start – which might lead to you not starting at all.
Break down the big goal into smaller tasks, fx such as: Write a book (overall goal) Smaller tasks could be: – find out what it should be about – do research on the topic – divide it up into sections – write ideas for each chapter – start writing 1 chapter – then the next and so on – edit
You see? In this way you have some very concrete action steps you can start on, and you know what each step entails which makes it much easier to begin!
Take Small Steps We might want to establish many new habits; start running, make a smoothie every day, exercise x times a week, work on projects etc. This is all great – ambitions is wonderful! However, start small. Start with one habit, break it down and be consistent with it until it’s just part of your daily routine and it truly is a habit that you just do. Then once you’ve established one habit successfully, then you can start implementing another one.
Don’t try to implement too many habits all at once. Rather start small and celebrate the small successes – in that way you’ll gain more and more confidence and self-trust that you’re able to accomplish what you set yourself to.
For a process like this I can highly recommend finding a coach to help you set small, manageable goals and to help keep you accountable! Ps, keep an eye out, I’ll soon start opening up for working 1:1 with clients (feel free to send me a message on Instagram or comment below if you might be interested in it, or want to hear more about it).
So let me hear – which new habit do you want to establish in your life? Or do you have a big goal you want to achieve? ✨
Let’s take an example, if you are a smoker trying to quit smoking and someone comes along and ask you if you want a cigarette you can either choose to say: “Sorry, but I’m trying to quit smoking” – hereby still identifying with the identity of being a smoker.
Or, you can choose to say: “No thanks, I’m not a smoker” – hereby not identifying with being a smoker.
Which attitude do you think are more likely to resist the temptation?
Surely, the attitude that doesn’t identify with being a smoker.
The same goes if you want to live more healthy – then you can change your identity to look upon yourself as someone who is healthy. You can make the switch right away! Just think that from now on you fill up your grocery basket with lots of veggies and fruits, and you fuel yourself up with all the vitamins and minerals.
Making an identity shift can be something you do right away, but the way you think and talk about yourself needs to be in alignment with your new identity if you’re going to stick to this ‘new you’.
So think about how you identify yourself. Who are you? Who do you want to be? What kind of life do you want to live? Make the changes and live as your new identity – take actions in alignment with what your ideal self would do 🙌✨
While we’re in these strange times of isolation and quarantine, many of us might find ourselves getting bored or feeling restless. But there are plenty of things you can do, and therefore I want to share 15 things to do at home. Just for pure inspiration if you need some ✨
15 Things To Do at Home
Tidy up & Organise your Home Spring is here, and there’s really no better time than now to do a proper Spring Cleaning! So why not Marie-Kondo your entire home, and get rid of the things that no longer brings you joy, clean your space and rearrange your furniture’s? I’ve already started and I’m already feeling better and better for every room I get cleaned and organised.
Paint You could paint a picture, or you can paint a wall! I just ordered some painting in a beautiful nude colour the other day and this coming week I’ll be painting one of the walls in my living room to spice up the interior a bit. I’m also thinking about painting some pictures for the wall as well.
Go for Walks (if allowed) Depending on where you live in the world, I know that the may or may not be a possibility at the moment. For those of you who live in countries where this is still fully allowed – get out and get some fresh air, move your body and be extremely grateful for the ‘simple’ thing we used to take for granted such as going for walks outside, because this simple thing has been limited for people around the globe. I know that I’ll never take this simple act for granted ever again
Try out a new Recipe Why not try out some delicious new recipes? It could be a lovely desert, snack or a delicious dinner recipe that you’ve been wanting to try forever but never really found the time to try out – now is the perfect time!
Read Books Of course this has to be on the list, one of my absolute favourite activities – reading! If you need some book inspiration, then just search for ‘book’ at my blog and you’ll find tons of recommendations.
Make a Home Spa Day We have more time at home, why not make a Home Spa day (or days?). Make a footbath, put on a facemask, dry brush your body, use your gua sha and give yourself a face massage. Make your own body butter, or put on a hair mask. Take time for yourself and take good care of yourself during these times
Write Letters to Your Friends and Family I got a letter the other day, an actual letter from one of my best friends and it was the best thing ever! I mean, how often do we get actual letters these days? Not that often anymore. Let those around you know that you love them and think about them by writing them a letter
Tea & FaceTime Netflix & Chill might still be a thing, but the newest trend is “Tea & FaceTime”. Make yourself a cup of tea and make a FaceTime date with your best friends, or your family members, and just sit and talk and connect and have a good time. I’ve said it so many times during this lockdown that how fortunate are we to live in a time where we need to ‘social distance’ ourselves, but we have the technology to be able to connect all the time if we want to
Start an At-Home-Workout Routine Again, thank you technology! When we can’t go to the gym, yoga study or wherever we usually go to, we’re so lucky that there are thousands of workout videos to find on Youtube or Instagram. You can find long Yoga session videos, or 20 minutes hard-core ab workout routines. So why not get into a good routine of moving your body!
Make a Visionboard Use this time at home to dream and make yourself a vision board! You can either make a physical one, or you can create a vision board on Pinterest. Just find pictures of how you want to feel and be, and what you want to do! Seeing your dreams in visuals is one of the best things ever, and can really life your mood!
Journal about Your Thoughts – or Talk to a Friend I know these times can be very anxious, and I’ve for sure felt that as well. You think about the state of the world, the economy, your job situation, you and your family’s health. There’s so much to think about and it’s easy to get caught up in worry and anxiety in these times. Know that there’s absolutely nothing wrong in feeling this way, and you should allow your emotions to be there and feel them – but a good suggestion is to get your fears and worries out of your head. Write them down in a journal, or call a friend and talk about things. Often times, all the things we build up in our heads aren’t as bad, when we just get them out of there
Watch Good Movies Relax and rest, and put on a good movie. I mean Disney or Harry Potter marathon is completely allowed, so go for it! Make yourself a cup of tea, cuddle up under your duvet and just relax and enjoy it.
Make a Puzzle Whether you’re an adult or have kids, making puzzles is the perfect activity! It’s such a relaxing and cozy activity to spend time on
Play Games Right alongside with playing a puzzle, if you have some games at home, then why not play those. Yatzy, Bagammon, Ludo, Uno etc.
What have you been doing during this quarantine? What has been your favourite way to spend your time? And what have you learned to appreciate even more because of this current situation? ✨
If you are into meditation and how to use your thoughts and frequencies to create a new reality for yourself, then you’re going to absolutely love this book! The book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza
This book is all about how you can use meditation and going into your subconscious mind to recreate yourself. It’s so fascinating, and Joe Dispenza really dives deep into how we can use meditation on a whole other level.
What I really love about the book is how he describes it, with facts and figures and everything and explains wave lengths and frequencies of the brain. It’s really taking meditation and working with your subconscious mind to a whole other level, and it really is ‘mind-blowing’ so to say.
He highlights the fact that if you want to change your life, you can only do so by first becoming aware of what it is about your current life/reality that you do not like. You can become aware of this by meditation and be consciously paying attention to yourself and your own thoughts and behaviours. From here, you can then start to work on replacing your current reality with a new one.
It’s so fascinating, and it has already given me an even bigger boost to dive even more into my meditation routine. I’m currently following the 4-week program that is at the end of the book, and I’m so excited about diving further into my own subconscious mind.
“We have, within our reach, all we need to make significant changes in our lives”
“The true purpose of meditation is to get beyond the analytical mind and enter into the subconscious mind so you can make real and permanent changes”
“What you think and believe has a profound effect on your world”
“We communicate with the quantum field primarily through our thoughts and feelings”
“If your thoughts determine your reality, and you keep thinking the same thoughts (which are a product and reflection of the environment), then you will continue to produce the same reality day after day”
Have you read any interesting books lately? As always, I would love to hear about it! Or perhaps you’ve already read this book? Then let me know, what are your thoughts about it?