Today is my Birthday and I’m turning 26. Therefore, I want to share with you 26 things I have learned in 26 years. I hope this can inspire and motivate you. Many of the things I’ve previously written about in more depth on my blog, so if you want to dive deeper into each area, feel free to explore it here on my blog 🙏✨
I’ve learned many things in my life – and the beauty about life is that I keep learning new things. And isn’t that beautiful? To know, that you can always learn new things. To know that you can always keep growing and evolving and experiencing new things. I find that so fascinating and magnificent, and I truly love this life and all the possibilities and opportunities we have at hand!
But let’s get into it – 26 things I have learned in 26 years:
You Create Your Own Reality
What You Focus on Grows
Gratitude is the Best Attitude
You Get what You Give
Love is always the answer
Food is Medicine
You Can’t Pour from an Empty Cup – Take Care of Yourself
Your Gut Health is Essential for Your Overall Health
What You See in Others, Exists in You as Well – both Good & Bad
Everything in Life is About Balance – Yin & Yang
Without the Darkness, We Wouldn’t See the Light
We Are Energy
Crying is Healthy and Good for Your Soul
Communication is Key to Everything
Treat Yourself the Way You Want Others to Treat You
Mental Health is as, if not more, important than your Physical Health
Small, but Steady Changes is Key to Sustainable Transformation
If you want to Grow, You Need to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
Your Worst Enemy is Yourself & Your Own Limiting Beliefs
Forgiveness is Not for Others, It is for You
Creating Easy, Actionable Steps is key to Reaching Your Goals
You Cannot Change Other People, The Only Person You Can Change is Yourself
The Day You Plant the Seed is Not the Day You Eat the Fruit – but Be Consistent and You’ll Reap all the Rewards
Progress Not Perfection. Done is Better than Perfect
I want to share with you, where my interest for Holistic Health comes from. This journey has involved all from digestive issues, to a weak immune system to skin issues. But it has all led me to where I am today 🌿✨
What I personally love about following people who shares about fx how to fix health problems, is to follow people who have been through it themselves. Because then you really know that they have been through the same struggles as you, and that they have really done the work and experimented themselves with what works and what doesn’t.
My Personal Health Story
Growing up I had lots of digestive problems and stomach aches during my childhood. And it was for sure something that was interrupting my life, as it was both painful, but also very frustrating that I never really knew when and why these stomach problems was happening.
Fast forward into my teenage years, where my immune system was so weak. I kept getting sick throughout high school, and at every bigger event (study trip, dance competition etc. I ALWAYS got sick). At this point I still didn’t know what was wrong, and it was frustrating, because in your teenage years FOMO (fear of missing out) is so big, at least it was for me at that time, so laying sick in hotel rooms at study trips while my classmates was out having fun and exploring new cities was for sure something I could have lived without.
Around this time, I started to find out that my connection to my digestive problems was very much connected to whenever I had dairy of any kind. I started reading and learning more about this, and found out that many people are lactose intolerant. Hereafter I started experimenting myself, and started to cut out dairy products. This was a game changer. I started noticing how every time I was at a family birthday and had some dairy again that my stomach would react, and I got confirmed in that this food group was not a well-fit for me. I was feeling way better without eating dairy, and I started to search for alternatives.
At this point, my digestive problems had become so much better, but now my immune system was a wreck. Couldn’t I just get to a point where I could feel healthy and thriving?
Funnily enough, today I can see the connection so clearly between my digestive issues and my weak immune system. Because I have later learned that around 2/3 of your immune system is located in your gut. By eating plenty of processed foods, sugar and keep eating and drinking dairy products as a child, this has certainly damaged my gut flora, and thereby also my digestive system later on.
Like most other teenagers I also experienced skin problems, which does absolutely no good to an already insecure teenager. When my skin was breaking out there were days where I just wanted to stay at home and not go out. If you have had skin problems yourself, you can probably recognise this feeling.
Again, today I can completely see why my skin was breaking out at the time.
First of all, my gut flora was already so damaged, so there have been a bacterial overgrowth of the bad bacteria in my gut. Second, my stress levels was quiet high in High School due to school assignments, exams and just normal high school pressure – and when you’re stressed this easily affects your skin. Because the ‘beauty’ of your skin really isn’t necessary for your overall survival, so when you’re stressed, your body takes nutrients from your skin cells to other, more important functions in your body. This is of course a good thing, but as a teenager, those breakouts was for sure not fun, and out of desperation I have probably tried all the harsh cleansers, creams etc. on the market (which of course didn’t work).
Out of complete desperation I decided to get on the vitamin A prescription through my doctor. This is such a harsh treatment, with very high dosages of vitamin A. It is actually so high, that you have to get blood test results every month while on the treatment. The treatment did work – for a while, but it also completely dried out my skin. And half a year later, the breakouts started happening again.
At this time, I had started to learn more and more about how the food we eat affect our health, and I was really into fuelling myself with healthy food. For many years, I saw the ‘solution’ to my problems as being: eating healthy food and moving my body.
I have later learned the more holistic approach to health. Being healthy is not just about what you eat and how much you exercise. It’s just as much about how you’re feeling mentally.
Do you love yourself? Do you speak kindly to yourself? Do you have a job that you love? Do you take time to relax and do the things that makes you happy?
Emotions and your mental well-being affects your health so much, I’m positive that in the next few years we’ll learn even more about the powerful connection between our emotions and their effects on our health. I love how the whole body is connected, and I keep learning new things about different connection. I find this to be the most fascinating thing!
And this is why I’m so passionated about Holistic Health. It’s NOT just about what you eat (even though whole foods can do wonders for your health, for sure), but being healthy is just as much about your mindset and your well-being 🌿✨
The only way to grow as a human being, is to step outside of your comfort zone 🙌✨
Every time you try something new, you learn and broaden your perspective – you grow as a human.
Getting outside of your comfort zone means doing things that frightens us. The act of doing something that we are not completely comfortable with almost always turns out not to be so bad once we’ve actually done it, often times it’s just our own mind that build things up to be hard, difficult, scary. And it’s when we try and learn new things that we expand our worlds, and grow.
One of the things that I personally feel very uncomfortable with and which is definitely outside of my comfort zone, is to make videos. So this year I want to challenge myself even more and get outside of my comfort zone.
I’ve committed myself to make 1 IGTV video pr. month. I have already uploaded my first one, about this exact topic, which was very nerve-wracking at first, but it was so well-received by all the lovely people who follow me. If you aren’t following me on Instagram, then I’ve shared an IGTV video about this exact topic, which was so in line with creating a video for me, because that for sure is stepping outside of my comfort zone!
But as my goal is to make 1 pr. month, I would really appreciate it, if you comment or message me about things you would like to hear about in video form.
I also want to encourage you to find something that’s outside of your comfort zone, and then try it out. It can be a small thing, or a bigger thing, but every time you get outside your comfort zone you’ll expand and broaden your world 🙌✨
Achieve your goals with this method! Here you get some Year & Quarterly Goals in printable PDF files, to help you stay on track with your goals all year round! 🙌✨
I did this exercise last year, and it helped me stay on track with my goals throughout the year, and I accomplished almost all the goals I set on my list for goals I wanted to achieve in 2019. I have just done the exact same exercise again but for 2020, and I can’t wait to stay on track again this year with actively pursuing and working towards reaching my goals.
Print 1 copy of the ‘Goals’ file: On this page you write down all the goals you want to achieve this year. Remember, it’s okay to have many dreams, but also be realistic about what you can achieve within 1 year.
Print 4 copies of the ‘Quarterly Goals’ file: On these pages, you write “1st quarter” (1. January – 31. March) / “2nd Quarter (1. April – 30. June) / “3rd Quarter (1. July – 30. September) / “4th Quarter (1. October – 31. December)
Now you look at your Goals for the entire year, and then you begin with the first ones you want to accomplish, and write these under the ‘important to achieve’ section.
After you have done this, you can break down the goal even further in the section below. Write down the actual steps you need to take to accomplish this goal.
Write down all 4 quarters, so it covers all your goals for the year.
Now if you have a stick board over your desk, or somewhere where you’ll look at it often, then put your first quarterly goal paper up here. Now for the first quarter of this year, only focus on these goals. Don’t think too much about all your goals for the year, but focus only on the first ones.
Let’s take an example on how to do it: One of my Goals for this year is to become a certified Holistic Health Coach, so this is what I have written on my Goals for the year.
On my Quarterly goals I have then written down what I need to do in order to make that come true, which involves: – Accomplishing X amount of Health Histories – Take my weekly classes – Accomplish the tests during the year – Participate in Coaching Circles
So what do you say? Do you want to actively work towards your goals and dreams this year? 🙌✨
“A Goal is a Dream with a deadline”
I would recommend reading this post first, and doing the reflection questions in there, and then you can fill out these goals documents afterwards.
We cannot change other people. The only person you can change is yourself. But by showing others that you can change, you show them the opportunities they have at hand as well 🌱✨
It can often feel frustrating when you see your dear ones doing things that doesn’t do them any good, and you want to help them change their habits so they can feel better. It could be a parent smoking, seeing someone in deep debt, or seeing someone eating lots of junk and not taking care of their health. Often we want to help our dear ones to make them feel better, but know this – you cannot help a person who does not want to be helped. So we cannot change other people, as frustrating as that is. But what we can do, is showing others the possibilities they have at hand, by doing the work ourselves.
And funnily enough, very often, the things we see in others, are mirrors of things we have in ourselves. So do the work. Focus on yourself. Once people see you have done something, this will inspire them way more, than you telling them to try this and that or stop doing something.
Be patient. You might not change someones life from one day to the next, just by showing them what’s possible. But never underestimate the power of planting a seed 🌱✨
“If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change” – Michael Jackson
Sometimes we tend to get so much stuff build up, both physical stuff, but also mental stuff, that it can all become too overwhelming or we can feel stuck or stagnant where we are. Therefore, I want to encourage you to declutter your space & life ✨
Don’t we all know the feeling of having such a messy house, that you don’t feel like getting anything done? Or perhaps your kitchen is such a mess that you don’t feel like cooking? Or your desktop is so cluttered and full, that you can’t seem to start the projects you want to be working on? Funny thing is, the saying goes “you teach what you most need to learn yourself”, and here I am in an absolute mess of an apartment & having a completely filled and cluttered desktop. It all needs a good round of decluttering, so that there is space for new things, feelings & inspiration!
“Make space for what matters”
Before we go into the new decade – 2020 – I want to declutter my home, my desktop and my mind. I want to get rid of all the old stuff that doesn’t serve me any longer, and create more light and space for new things to flourish. Because nothing new can comes in, if you try to hold on to lots of old stuff. Let it go, and welcome new opportunities into your life
What about you – does your life need a good decluttering before entering 2020? Remember, as always, not to look at things like you need to get everything done at once, begin in one place. Perhaps start with decluttering and cleaning your kitchen. Then move on to the next. But take one step at a time ✨
You might have seen this quote on Instagram before; “The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit“. This is so true, and such an important reminder to keep in mind. This applies to all things in life. Things do take time, and a continuous effort.
You might want to grow a business. This doesn’t happen over night. It takes time and effort. You can start to plant the seed for it, by starting a website or a blog – but that is not enough for you to have a business. You need to continuously water and nurture it, in order to make it grow.
The same goes for many other things in life. If you want a good relationship, you need to continuously water & nurture it. Put in the effort, plan dates, communicate also when things gets hard, do loving things for each other.
Whatever you want to see grow in your life – you need to give attention to, and water and nurture it, otherwise the seed will die out. But if you keep watering it and giving it love and attention, I promise you, one day the seed will have grown big and beautiful and you will be able to reap all the rewards from all the love, attention and dedication you put into it ✨
But remember, in order to grow anything, you also first need to plant the seed. If you want anything in life, you need to plant the intention of it, start it and then you can start to water it.
Having a Growth Mindset can change your life completely. But you have to learn to see things differently, and think differently from what you have been used to, if you want to get this kind of mindset. Invest in yourself, keep learning, exploring and stay open-minded and life will turn into the most interesting adventure you have ever been on!
Fixed Mindset VS. Growth Mindset
A Fixed Mindset sees ourselves as static beings, like we can’t change how things are for us, our character, intelligence or creativity. However, a Growth Mindset thrives on challenge and views failure as new learning opportunities, and new ways of growth. Our entire life is defined by our mindset. Our relationship with success and failure determines our way towards happiness. If you keep seeing a failure as you being a failure and you get sad and miserable over it, this will affect your life. But, if you instead see failure as just another way to have learned something new, and a springboard towards success, your world-view will be entirely different.
How to Gain a Growth Mindset
Keep learning and exploring new things and ways of thinking. Read books, watch documentaries, talk to new people, listen to podcasts, go to new places
See failure not as a failure, but as an opportunity for growth and learning
Focus on the good things in life & the small joys
See life as Yin & Yang, everything is about balance. You need both in your life
Stop telling yourself limiting beliefs, instead go encourage yourself and talk yourself up
Another’s success does not mean that you cannot succeed. Learn to be happy about other people’s successes, and know that there is more than enough to go around for everyone
Nicole Hemmer is a teacher, inspirational speaker and a writer with passion for spirituality and soul work. I met Nicole through Instagram, and she was just such a ray of positive light and inspiration right from the beginning, and such a kind and inspirering soul. Nicole has been travelling around the world, doing soul work, and has worked with many people from all over the world mentoring them and guiding them. Nicole also just released her very first book, Soul on Fire, which you can read much more about in this interview. Please welcome, Nicole.
Dear Nicole, will you tell us a little bit about yourself? Who you are and what you do?
I am originally from Canada, lived in Europe the past 3 years and am currently based in Bali, Indonesia. I also traveled to 50 countries by the time I was 25 years old, and have had a strong fire in my heart for freedom and global transformation from a young age.
I am a teacher, inspirational speaker, writer, women’s empowerment mentor, and author. I’ve led international workshops, classes, sacred circle’s and retreats with hundreds of women around the world and did my Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology (the study of psychology, spirituality and consciousness). My passion and expertise is in inspiring women to step into their power, unleashing their soul’s voice in the world, soul embodiment and Divine Feminine Soul Leadership.
How did you first become interested in spirituality?
I first became interested in spirituality when I was 14 years old. I felt a strong hunger in my heart for spirituality and knew that my reason for being on this Earth was connected to this, and was a core component of my purpose. I also started to do yoga and meditation at this age, and was reading books on healing, the chakra’s, intuition, psychic abilities, eastern philosophy and consciousness. My mother was also open to spirituality and introduced me to crystals, colour baths, hands on healing, and personal development.
Which events in your life has completely changed your life?
Moving to Berlin when I was 25 years old changed my life, and was the catalyst for me to start doing the work with women that I was initiated and called to do. Living in Japan when I was 22 years old also changed my life, and brought me back to my soul’s essence and taught me what it means to be a woman in her feminine essence.
A paramount moment for me on my path was when my parents separated when I was 19 years old, and I entered a dark night of the soul period. During this time, I made the commitment to myself and vow that I would never allow any situation or circumstance to close my heart. I promised myself I would stay open no matter what throughout this lifetime, and always keep my heart open. To allow challenging and painful experiences to crack my heart open even wider, and allow pain and suffering to be the gateway to going deeper within myself….
Which books have changed your life?
Initiation by Elizabeth Haich
The Seven Wisdoms of Life by Shai Tubali
What do you feel the world needs more of?
I strongly feel that the world needs more love, presence and consciousness now more than ever. I feel that heart and soul aligned leadership in women is paramount in a time when the feminine has been denigrated and severely suppressed on the earth. Women need to step into their power and reclaim their voice. The earth is screaming for our help and support, and I feel it is my mission to be a beacon of expression for the Divine Feminine consciousness—to activate, ignite and initiate women into their soul and burning truth.
“I strongly feel that the world needs more love, presence and consciousness now more than ever”
What is your best advice for people dealing with self-doubt?
Self doubt is derived from the small self—and is not our true nature. When we connect to our Higher Self, that is rooted in Divine Confidence, Divine Knowing and Divine Trust—we live in unshakable confidence true to our soul. When we embody and connect to our soul, it is rooted in love and truth. Our small self is controlled by fear, lack and self doubt.
Do you have some daily rituals that you do every single day?
Everyday I place my hands on my heart when I wake up and when I go to sleep. I pray for people that come into my awareness everyday. I stay in an open state where I feel my inspiration and then take inspired action based on what I feel called to do. I love to spend time in nature. I love being in silence—for in silence I can feel and attune myself deeper to the wisdom and knowing of my heart.
What are your favourite practices to raise your vibration?
Some of my favourite practices to strengthen my energetic field is time in nature, time in water, and meditation. I also love aromatherapy oils and rose water spray. Living here in Bali, I love to go to sacred water temples for purification and cleansing..
Which 3 people have inspired you most in your life?
Mary Magdalene, Elizabeth Haich, and Powerful Women Leaders of Light on this Earth that are fierce and true.
You have just released your first book, can you tell us a little bit about it?
Over the last year, I’ve been creating and birthing my first book entitled Soul On Fire: Divine Reminders on the Path of Awakening.This book is a sacred jewel of inspiration for any woman looking to deepen into her humanity—and her divinity. This project reflects my sacred work in the world and I am thrilled to be stepping forward with sharing it with the world…
The book contains transmissions and evolutionary adventures from my own journey, plus self-portraits captured during my travels around the world. My vision is by reading this book, you’ll receive an activation into your deepest truth and soul’s knowing. Whether you receive the words and images in this book as a meditation, or simply as sparkling soul musings, Soul On Fire will awaken, ignite and strengthen your remembrance and connection with the Divine in your own life.
Some of the chapters included in the book are: Authenticity, A New Earth and Feeling the Future, Living the Extraordinary, Beyond Fear, Pain, Warrior of Light, Natural Wild Beauty, Sisterhood, Divine Feminine, Divine Masculine, Money and Abundance, Clarity, Mystical Knowing, The Higher Self, Inspiration…etc.
If people want to learn more about you, or support you in any kind of way, where can they do this?
They can connect with me on Facebook, or check out my website and subscribe to my – Soul Inspiration – newsletter that I send to sisters and women of light around the world. Or follow me on Instagram which is actually how Camilla and I connected! 😉
The book “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill is a bestselling book, and I completely understand why – it is magical!
The book “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill has quickly made it to the top of my favourite books. I highlighted so much of the book while reading it, because there was just so much gold in it. The book is primarily about money and how to accumulate riches, but it is also about so much more than just that. It’s about how to get anything in life.
This book is one of the front-goers for the whole ‘manifestation’, ‘law of attraction’ phenomenon, and it is so inspirering and motivating to read. It’s about how you can achieve anything, if you believe you can.
As usual, I don’t want to say too much about the book, because I think you should have the experience of reading it. But I will say that it is life-changing, and that it can really shift your perspective on life.
Below I’ve shared some of my favourite quotes from the book.
Quotes from the book
“Everything which man creates, begins in the form of a thought impulse. Man can create nothing which he does not first conceive in thought”
“You can not get, if you do not give”
“Riches begin in the form of thought. The amount is limited only by the person in whose mind the thought is put into motion”
“One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat”
“Our brains become magnetised with the dominating thoughts which we hold in our minds, and, by means which no man is familiar, these “magnets” attract to us the forces, the people, the circumstances of life, which harmonise with the nature of our dominating thoughts”