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letting go

Self-development

GET RID OF WHAT DOESN’T SERVE YOU ANY LONGER, TO MAKE ROOM FOR NEW THINGS

Sometimes in life, we tend to hold on to hold on to things for too life, so that there is no room for new things to come into our life. This is why it’s important to get rid of what doesn’t serve you any longer, to make room for new things ✨

Perhaps your wardrobe is full of black sweaters that you’ve had for years – and you don’t want to get rid of them. Yet now you’re more into lighter colours, but you can’t fit more clothes into your wardrobe because of all the old pieces of clothing?

Perhaps you’re holding onto a gift you got from someone, but you don’t really LOVE it in your home?

It doesn’t only have to be materialistic things – this applies just as well to your personality, and your belief systems.

Perhaps you’ve been clinging to an old version of yourself, an old identity – because you keep telling yourself that “this is who I am”, yet you want more, you want something new and better for yourself.

All things in life serves a purpose at a time. But you need to learn to tune into yourself and listen to when things have served their purpose – and it’s time to let go of them, so that you can welcome in something new that can serve the new you better ✨

Self-development

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FOR OTHERS, IT IS FOR YOURSELF

Today I want to talk about choosing to forgive. Forgiveness is not for others, it is for yourself 🙏✨

Forgiving others. We often talk about certain things as being something we can’t forgive. And if people have done you wrong in any kind of way they perhaps they do not deserve your forgiveness. But what I wanted to talk about today is why you need to forgive others, in your own mind, for your own sake.

If you keep holding onto anger, resentment, jealousy about what someone else did to you – then who does that harm? Only yourself. I know the feeling, even though you can feel like your negative vibes are somehow punishing someone else, in reality, you are only hurting yourself even more – and you deserve better than that.

I wanted to address this topic, because not only is it damaging for your mental health to carry anger, jealousy etc. But, if we look at the body from a holistic point of view (which I’m all about), then according to Traditional Chinese Medicine, emotions and physical health are intimately connected. Sadness, nervous tension and anger, worry, fear and overwork are each associated with a particular organ in the body.

Fx irritability and anger can affect the liver and result in menstrual pain, headache, redness of the face and eyes, dizziness and dry mouth.
So not only are you hurting yourself mentally by holding onto things, but you are also creating dis-ease in your own body and doing physical harm to yourself.

Again, forgiving others does not necessarily make what someone did to you okay, but forgiving others can be a way to set yourself free.

The only person you hurt by holding onto things, is yourself. I’ll recommend to write a letter (just for yourself), and truly express your feelings and then choose to forgive and let it go 🙏✨