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Self-development

GET RID OF WHAT DOESN’T SERVE YOU ANY LONGER, TO MAKE ROOM FOR NEW THINGS

Sometimes in life, we tend to hold on to hold on to things for too life, so that there is no room for new things to come into our life. This is why it’s important to get rid of what doesn’t serve you any longer, to make room for new things ✨

Perhaps your wardrobe is full of black sweaters that you’ve had for years – and you don’t want to get rid of them. Yet now you’re more into lighter colours, but you can’t fit more clothes into your wardrobe because of all the old pieces of clothing?

Perhaps you’re holding onto a gift you got from someone, but you don’t really LOVE it in your home?

It doesn’t only have to be materialistic things – this applies just as well to your personality, and your belief systems.

Perhaps you’ve been clinging to an old version of yourself, an old identity – because you keep telling yourself that “this is who I am”, yet you want more, you want something new and better for yourself.

All things in life serves a purpose at a time. But you need to learn to tune into yourself and listen to when things have served their purpose – and it’s time to let go of them, so that you can welcome in something new that can serve the new you better ✨

Self-development

WHAT LIMITING BELIEFS ARE HOLDING YOU BACK?

What limiting beliefs are holding you back from reaching your full potential? Let’s talk about all the things you tell yourself day in and day out, because those thoughts are more powerful than you might think ✨

Have you ever paid attention, to what you say to yourself? I don’t mean what you say out verbally to yourself, but to all the things you tell yourself during the day? What thoughts run through your head when you pass a mirror? What thoughts come up when you speak to someone else? What thoughts do you tell yourself about whether or not you can do something?

For a lot of people, these thoughts are not very positive and encouraging. actually, they can be quite the opposite, they can be harmful, negative and limiting.

And as I’ve mentioned so many times in here – what you focus on grows. Also what you might not have been consciously focusing on, like the things you tell yourself daily in your head.

Become Aware of Your Thoughts

The first step to changing this, is to become aware of your thoughts. Every time you are about to or you have just thought a negative, limiting thought about yourself – stop yourself, and try to “recreate” the thought to a positive and more encouraging one.

At first, you might not believe yourself. But the important thing is to become aware. Because all kind of change, first starts with awareness.

When you have become aware of what kind of things you tell yourself, identify those thoughts. Why do you even say or think these things?

Perhaps you’ve been told for years in school that you are a shy girl who does not speak up. Over the years you’ve taken this identity to you by keep reinforcing those beliefs, which have probably held you back from many things in life – fx feeling comfortable with doing presentations, speaking up etc.

But is there actually any true to this ‘identity’? You can choose to change it, but it does take time. Because something you’ve been identifying yourself as for years, can’t just be changed from one day to the next.

But by becoming aware, and starting to tell yourself a new story and try new things that challenge your prior belief – and keep doing this over and over again, you can change your identity and thereby your reality and your own perception of yourself ✨

Read also: Positive Affirmations


Self-development

REPROGRAMMING YOUR MIND

As kids we learn things by our parents and those closest to us, this can be both good and bad. If you have limiting self-beliefs, then reprogramming your mind is a way to turn your confidence around and start believing more in yourself ✨

The majority of our lives we run on autopilot – we do the things we have learned to do over and over again. However these things might not always be in your best interest.

Our subconscious mind runs on autopilot, and the things we have learned to do subconsciously we learned in our early childhood days. By watching and observing our parents and those closest to us. This can be both good and bad. You have learned to walk and talk this way, which is wonderful things!

But you might also have learned self-doubt, negative self-talk, how you handle conflicts etc. this way. If you want to change how you live your life and your habits, you need to dig real deep and find out what beliefs you learned in your early childhood and then start to actively work on changing those daily.

This can fx be if you grew up with a parent who talked negatively about themselves, you might feel like that yourself and have convinced yourself over years and years of this way of talking to yourself that you are not good enough. If you want to change this, start to work with affirmations. See this post for examples on positive affirmations. Start to write things down that you feel good about yourself, tell it to yourself – and do it consistently! These subconscious beliefs take time to change, so you have to keep working on them, otherwise it’s easy to fall right back into old destructive patterns 💫

Questions for you: Which beliefs did you carry with you from childhood? What behaviours are you actively trying to change? Or would like to change? ✨

Read also: Growth Mindset