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FIND MENTORS OR ROLE MODELS WHO HAVE THE LIFE YOU WANT

Find mentors or role models who have the life you want, and then study what they do 📖✨

I have had so many role models in my life, some ‘real life’ role models that I knew closely, and a lot of role models which I’ve read about or seen documentaries about.

Having someone to look up to is incredible to help you get your dream life!

Because if you want what someone has, then you can choose to study them. Study what they do for a living. Study what kind of attitude and belief set they have. What are their habits? Learn from your role models or mentors.

You can do this completely free if these are bigger personalities where they perhaps have an autobiography written about them, or you can also choose to reach out to people and ask if they will be your mentor. All the big people, fx Tony Robbins, who I have studied and read about have also all talked about studying other people, and walking in their shoes.

I have studied countless of people, primarily through reading. It is through these people that I’ve gotten inspired to change many of my habits, to implement better ones and to get rid of some that just wasn’t serving me.

And it is also very inspirational and comforting to know – that if they can do it, then you can as well!

Question for you: Who are your role models in life? And why do they inspire you? What is 1 habit that your role model does, that you can implement in your own life? ✨

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STEP OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

The only way to grow as a human being, is to step outside of your comfort zone 🙌✨

Every time you try something new, you learn and broaden your perspective – you grow as a human.

Getting outside of your comfort zone means doing things that frightens us. The act of doing something that we are not completely comfortable with almost always turns out not to be so bad once we’ve actually done it, often times it’s just our own mind that build things up to be hard, difficult, scary. And it’s when we try and learn new things that we expand our worlds, and grow.

One of the things that I personally feel very uncomfortable with and which is definitely outside of my comfort zone, is to make videos. So this year I want to challenge myself even more and get outside of my comfort zone.

I’ve committed myself to make 1 IGTV video pr. month. I have already uploaded my first one, about this exact topic, which was very nerve-wracking at first, but it was so well-received by all the lovely people who follow me. If you aren’t following me on Instagram, then I’ve shared an IGTV video about this exact topic, which was so in line with creating a video for me, because that for sure is stepping outside of my comfort zone!

But as my goal is to make 1 pr. month, I would really appreciate it, if you comment or message me about things you would like to hear about in video form.

I also want to encourage you to find something that’s outside of your comfort zone, and then try it out. It can be a small thing, or a bigger thing, but every time you get outside your comfort zone you’ll expand and broaden your world 🙌✨

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WHAT LIMITING BELIEFS ARE HOLDING YOU BACK?

What limiting beliefs are holding you back from reaching your full potential? Let’s talk about all the things you tell yourself day in and day out, because those thoughts are more powerful than you might think ✨

Have you ever paid attention, to what you say to yourself? I don’t mean what you say out verbally to yourself, but to all the things you tell yourself during the day? What thoughts run through your head when you pass a mirror? What thoughts come up when you speak to someone else? What thoughts do you tell yourself about whether or not you can do something?

For a lot of people, these thoughts are not very positive and encouraging. actually, they can be quite the opposite, they can be harmful, negative and limiting.

And as I’ve mentioned so many times in here – what you focus on grows. Also what you might not have been consciously focusing on, like the things you tell yourself daily in your head.

Become Aware of Your Thoughts

The first step to changing this, is to become aware of your thoughts. Every time you are about to or you have just thought a negative, limiting thought about yourself – stop yourself, and try to “recreate” the thought to a positive and more encouraging one.

At first, you might not believe yourself. But the important thing is to become aware. Because all kind of change, first starts with awareness.

When you have become aware of what kind of things you tell yourself, identify those thoughts. Why do you even say or think these things?

Perhaps you’ve been told for years in school that you are a shy girl who does not speak up. Over the years you’ve taken this identity to you by keep reinforcing those beliefs, which have probably held you back from many things in life – fx feeling comfortable with doing presentations, speaking up etc.

But is there actually any true to this ‘identity’? You can choose to change it, but it does take time. Because something you’ve been identifying yourself as for years, can’t just be changed from one day to the next.

But by becoming aware, and starting to tell yourself a new story and try new things that challenge your prior belief – and keep doing this over and over again, you can change your identity and thereby your reality and your own perception of yourself ✨

Read also: Positive Affirmations


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YOU CANNOT CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE, THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN CHANGE IS YOURSELF

We cannot change other people. The only person you can change is yourself. But by showing others that you can change, you show them the opportunities they have at hand as well 🌱✨

It can often feel frustrating when you see your dear ones doing things that doesn’t do them any good, and you want to help them change their habits so they can feel better. It could be a parent smoking, seeing someone in deep debt, or seeing someone eating lots of junk and not taking care of their health. Often we want to help our dear ones to make them feel better, but know this – you cannot help a person who does not want to be helped. So we cannot change other people, as frustrating as that is. But what we can do, is showing others the possibilities they have at hand, by doing the work ourselves.

And funnily enough, very often, the things we see in others, are mirrors of things we have in ourselves. So do the work. Focus on yourself. Once people see you have done something, this will inspire them way more, than you telling them to try this and that or stop doing something.

Be patient. You might not change someones life from one day to the next, just by showing them what’s possible. But never underestimate the power of planting a seed 🌱✨

“If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change” – Michael Jackson

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REPROGRAMMING YOUR MIND

As kids we learn things by our parents and those closest to us, this can be both good and bad. If you have limiting self-beliefs, then reprogramming your mind is a way to turn your confidence around and start believing more in yourself ✨

The majority of our lives we run on autopilot – we do the things we have learned to do over and over again. However these things might not always be in your best interest.

Our subconscious mind runs on autopilot, and the things we have learned to do subconsciously we learned in our early childhood days. By watching and observing our parents and those closest to us. This can be both good and bad. You have learned to walk and talk this way, which is wonderful things!

But you might also have learned self-doubt, negative self-talk, how you handle conflicts etc. this way. If you want to change how you live your life and your habits, you need to dig real deep and find out what beliefs you learned in your early childhood and then start to actively work on changing those daily.

This can fx be if you grew up with a parent who talked negatively about themselves, you might feel like that yourself and have convinced yourself over years and years of this way of talking to yourself that you are not good enough. If you want to change this, start to work with affirmations. See this post for examples on positive affirmations. Start to write things down that you feel good about yourself, tell it to yourself – and do it consistently! These subconscious beliefs take time to change, so you have to keep working on them, otherwise it’s easy to fall right back into old destructive patterns 💫

Questions for you: Which beliefs did you carry with you from childhood? What behaviours are you actively trying to change? Or would like to change? ✨

Read also: Growth Mindset

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GET GROUNDED

If we want to grow, stretch and reach our dreams, we also need to get grounded. Plant our roots deep in the ground, so we can grow even higher.

“Flying starts from the ground. The more grounded you are, the higher you fly” – J.R. Rim

Do you have big dreams and visions for your future? I do too, but in order to make those dreams a reality and grow high, we also need to ground ourselves and get the foundational work in place.

Fulfil the Basic Needs

If you’ve ever had a psychology class at some point in your life, you might have heard of ‘Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs‘. This theory explains perfectly the concept of getting yourself grounded, in order to reach your own higher potential.

Photo from: simplypsychology.org

This pyramid starts from the bottom, the first need all human beings needs to get fulfilled physiological needs; air, water, food, shelter, sleep, clothing, sex. If we have not fulfilled these basic needs, we will not begin to start thinking about the next level in the pyramid, because our mind will then only stay focused on fulfilling our very basic human needs.

In our Western society, majority of us people have the two bottom ‘needs’ in place: physiological and safety needs. What we are working on the top 3 layers; love and belonging, esteem and self-actualisation.

So when I say ‘get grounded’, I mean that in order for you to grow, you first need to have these foundations in place. You need to eat food, sleep well, and have a place you feel safe. But what is also important is your relationship towards others, a sense of belonging, and your own self-esteem. A practice to help you with your self-esteem can be the use of positive affirmations.

Remember, that the highest trees, also have the deepest and strongest roots.

Do you have big dreams and visions you want to fulfil? Look at your own life and see where your foundation is not working, and then start working on that. Perhaps you do not sleep enough? Then start working on that. Perhaps your self-esteem is very low? Then start working on that.
So, where in your life, can you work on your foundational work? Share it below, or write it down for yourself, and then start working on it.

Read also: Growth Mindset