A little while ago I read the book “The Four Agreements*” by Don Miguel Ruiz, and wauw. I’ve had this book on my reading list for such a long time, and it is such a light an easy read so I don’t know why I’ve waited so long, but I do believe in timing, and it was the perfect time to read it, it really got me.
Don Miguel Ruiz writes about 4 fundamental life lessons in his book “The Four Agreements”, which in all its simplicity are some very simple life lessons, yet this is something we tend to forget about all the time. But, getting reminded of these things and seeing them in such a simple way really makes a difference. It lights you up and makes you feel good, and really shows you how you can change your own world by changing your perception about life.
I don’t want to give away too much, or say what these life lessons are, because I do believe there was something very special about reading the book and seeing these for yourself, and I don’t want to give that away. But, I will give you a little inspirering quote from the book:
“The word is pure magic – the most powerful gift we have as humans – and we use it against ourselves”
All I can say is that I definitely recommend this book. It is beautiful and so full of wisdom which we could all benefit from becoming aware of and knowing (and using).
Have you read the book? What did you think about it? If you have any other book recommendations, please let me know and I’ll add it to my never-ending-reading-list!
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Yesterday I was reading in the book “The Four Agreements“* (which is a must-read!) and the quote “Forgiveness is the only way to heal” came up. I have been thinking about this life lessons myself several times in my own life, and now I got reminded to share it with you guys.
In all it’s simplicity it’s about that you will never heal yourself and move on from something if you do not choose to forgive those who you think have hurt or harmed you in any way.
Let me show you an example, if you for example have been dating a guy and find out that he has been dating several others at the same time, then you might feel betrayed and hurt. Over time you will move on, but you will never fully heal yourself until you choose to forgive the guy. This doesn’t mean that you in any way have to go up to the guy and say “I forgive you”. You simply just need to forgive him in your own heart. Know that there could have been several reasons for him doing so, and that it really might not have anything to do with you at all. Choose to look at the things you’ve learned along the way instead. Because of this relation you might have learned how to be more open towards other people, you might also have learned that what you want in a potential partner is someone who is loyal towards you. Realise that you would never have learned these things if you hadn’t had that negative experience, and see it as a blessing. I love the Dumbledore quote (you know, from Harry Potter): “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if only one remembers to turn on the light“.
To take another example, some blame their parents for having given them a certain upbringing. Choose to look at it this way instead – most parents did the best they could with what they had and with the knowledge they had. There’s really no point in holding on to anger or frustration for how you was raised – instead choose to let go, forgive, and choose your own way now.
By holding on to anger, or not wanting to forgive someone, you are only holding yourself back and hurting yourself. All those negative feelings are locked inside you. You might think that you are directing them at someone else, but the only person it is truly hurting – is yourself.
Choose to forgive and you can thereby heal yourself.
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