Establishing new habits can be difficult, as we are such creatures of habit who are just living on auto-pilot most of the time. So a trick to implementing new habits, is to bind your new habit to an already existing one 🌿✨
Perhaps you know the feeling – you want to start that new healthy habit! You’re all excited, and ready to just DO it! You remember to do it for the first week, then wupsi, you forget one day. Then two more, and suddenly you’ve forgotten about that new habit you wanted to implement, because it’s not a natural part of your daily routines.
So how exactly do you implement these new habits, and remind yourself of them?
First tip – write it down! Things are way more likely to happen if you write them down, and set an actual goal.
But second of all – bind your new habit, to an already existing one.
What does that mean?
It means that if you fx want to start using positive affirmations in your daily life, that you then tie that new habit to an already existing one – like brushing your teeth. You could fx put a post-it with positive affirmations on your bathroom mirror, and then when you brush your teeth, you could read them to yourself.
Or perhaps you want to start to start meditating, then tie that habit to your existing habit of making a cup of tea: after I make my morning tea, I will go meditate for 5 minutes.
This method is also known as “Habit stacking”, which says that one of the best ways to build a new habit is to identify a current habit you already do each day, and then stack your new behaviour on top. This method I got directly from James Clear’s book “Atomic Habits”, which I will highly recommend you to read!
So tell me, what new habit do you want to implement in your life? And which existing habit can you then tie it to? 🌿
Do you want to make changes in your life? Real lifestyle changes? It can be the hardest thing sometimes to do it all by yourself, therefore it can be so beneficial to have someone to support you and keep you accountable.
This might sound very counterintuitive, but just hear me out and let me explain how minimising your to-do list can help you get more things done
I want to start out with sharing this quote with you:
“We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day and underestimate what we can do in a year” – unknown
We often tend to think that we want to do XY & Z within a day, and write down the longest to-do list and then get disappointed with ourselves when we don’t get half of it done. Which is highly unmotivating if you keep doing this to yourself.
But we often tend to forget, the compound effect of doing small things over a longer period of time.
So instead of overwhelming yourself within each day, try to just do 3 important things for each day – and then everything else the you do in addition to that is just an extra success!
Over time you won’t feel as overwhelmed each day, and the act of accomplishing what you’ve set yourself up for gives you even more drive and motivation.
And remember to have long-term perspective. I know the feeling of wanting to have it all done NOW, but think long-term and then think about the small steps you can take each day that will help get you closer towards your overall goal.
Exercise for you: Write down a bigger goal that you have. Then think about all the small things you can do to help you reach that goal – and then start doing these things consistently.
What you affirm grows. What you pay attention to grows. Become aware of this, and start to pay attention to the things you want more of in your life ✨
One of the biggest lessons I have learned in life so far, is that what you affirm grows and what you pay attention to grows. This goes for both good and bad things. If you pay attention to how much love you have in your life, and how kind, generous, inspirational people are – you will get more and see more of this. On the other hand, if you pay attention to how irritating, angry and frustrated people are – you will see more of this.
If you keep telling yourself that you are not good enough, you are ugly, you don’t deserve certain things – you will keep getting more of the things that affirms that this is true for you. However, if you start shifting your perception and tell yourself that you ARE good enough, that you are beautiful and that you deserve all the best in the world – your belief in yourself will grow, and you will start to recognise more and more things that will affirm you in your beliefs.
“What you pay attention to grows. If your attention is attracted to negative situations and emotions, then they will grow in your awareness” – Deepak Chopra
This means that YOU have the power over your life. You, and only you, can decide what you give your attention to. So what do you want in your life? Start to pay more attention to the things you want more of, and you will start to see how these show up more and more ✨
Everything you bring into your life has energy and that will affect you and your life. Therefore, it is so important to become aware about what we surround ourselves with – who do we spend our time with? What job do we have? What food do we eat? I will share some of the ways in which what you bring into your life can affect you, and I hope this will make you see how much of an affect it can have upon your life – and how you can change it, if you want to live a different life from what you are currently living.
The food you eat can either be fresh and whole, like lots of vegetables, nuts, seeds, fruits, which contributes to fuel your body, your skin and your energy level. But, it can also be sugary, highly processed food with no nutritional value which actually does the opposite and drains you for energy. Become aware of what you eat. Of course, everything in life is about balance, and you should definitely treat yourself if you want a cake once in a while, but look at what you eat for the majority of the day. If you feel sluggish and tired all the time, try eating more vegetables and drink more water, and see what a difference that does to your body.
We spend most of our lives on our jobs, so just think about if you go to your job almost every single day with the thought “oh no… not another day“, then you fill yourself up with negative energy for most of the week.
I know that it might not always be possible to find a job that you love right away, so while you are on the hunt for a job that will excite you, try to use some gratitude and positive thoughts for the job you DO have at the moment. Because we can only get more, by being grateful for what we already have. Be grateful for the income you are getting, for your kind colleagues, etc. Find small things to be grateful for, and your days will become a lot better.
Relationships are probably one of THE MOST important areas to look at in terms of what energy you bring into your life. Because if you have relationships (not only romantic ones, just as well friendships and family relations) where you spend the majority of your time together fighting, spending time with people who are always negative, criticising etc. then this will drain your energy. Figure out if you want this in your life, or start to search for other friendships/relationships.
Of course we all have downtimes and I’m not saying just ‘cut off’ someone because they have a bad day, or are going through a rough time, but I think we all know the difference between people who are dealing with something for a while, and people who are negative all the time.
Have you ever heard the saying: “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with“? Look at who you are spending most of your time with. Are they people who you love, who inspire you, uplift you, who you genuinely enjoy spending time with?
Music is another way to bring energy into your life. Whenever you listen to music, do you then listen to sad songs all the time? Or, do you listen to uplifting, positive soundtracks? This is such an easy switch to make to instantly lift your mood.
Fx does Spotify have several different playlists for specific moods, try to choose a more uplifting and positive one in your daily life and see what a difference this makes to your mood.
Life is simply too short to surround yourself with things that doesn’t make you happy. Seriously, do you sit at home and just feel like “eh..” over your room, apartment or house? There is really no need to. Start clearing up and throw out all of the things that doesn’t make you happy (for this little project I can recommend Marie Kondo’s book ‘The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up“). Hereafter, everytime you bring something new into your life really think about if this is something that makes you happy and excited. Create a home and a create a feeling that inspires you and which makes you feel happy and at home.
Mindset, another huge one, which is so important. If you have been following me for a while either here or on my Instagram, you know that I truly believe that if you“change your mind you can change your life“, and that you create your own reality.
The thoughts you think, and the feelings you have are of such importance to the life you are living. No matter what happens to you, know that it is your choice how you want to respond to that situation. It’s all up to you!
If you want to start working on changing your mindset, I recommend starting with working on:
I hope this blogpost can help you see that there are SO many ways in which we bring energies into our lives, and that we can truly change our life by choosing what we led into our lives, whether that be people we spend time with, music we listen to, food we eat or the thoughts we think.